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Feb 13, 2017 at 09:49 PM
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I'm a romantic.
I love chocolates, warm wishes, hugs... I love love. I adore my partner, he is amazing and I really love him. But he doesn't do romance the same way that I do. He's more of a companionship type, as opposed to swooning. He does express his affection. But it's usually subtle; he isn't big on focusing on emotions. I don't mind that, but sometimes I find it hard to understand. For example, today I sent him a Valentine's Day message, and he hasn't replied. It's certainly not the end of the world, but as a lover of romance, and of the one man, I feel like maybe I'll have to ignore my love of romance (or read more romance novels) for as long as I'm in the relationship (I'm hoping for the long haul). I was just wondering if anyone else had been in a relationship with someone who had the complete opposite approach to romance to themselves, and whether you were able to find a balance between the two approaches? __________________ “One for the Prophet, the wide open eye… Two for his brunt and the sign of the fist… Three for Uyane, the unclad sword… Four for Mykrm, the hammer of his law… Five for Oyan of the ash-stained leaf… Six for Thaliszar and the healing hand…” (R. Lee Smith, The Last Hour of Gann) |
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Feb 13, 2017 at 10:03 PM
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People just show romance in different ways. Just because he doesn't do romance the way you do doesn't mean it's not there at all. Maybe ask for a compromise. Do a little of each other's way of showing affection?
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Feb 13, 2017 at 10:14 PM
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I think he expresses his just through respect, through having me around, occasional unexpected gifts, and sometimes there are gestures which don't seem like it at first - but when he explains himself, it becomes apparent he was doing something because he cares a lot. It's all quite subtle, but I do see it. I guess it just sometimes feels a bit awkward when the more overt romance that I express isn't reciprocated. But mostly I need to remind myself that it's not because he doesn't care, it's just a different communication style. I don't really expect a solution. But I am curious as to how others may have approached such situations. 
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Feb 14, 2017 at 05:41 AM
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Hmmmm I'd personally find it a bitter pill to swallow if I sent my partner a Happy Valentine's Day message and they didn't reply at all. Not cool
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Feb 14, 2017 at 04:09 PM
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Feb 14, 2017 at 07:15 PM
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I feel for you.
And I don't think it has much to do with anything of being romantic, but the fact that you give him attention and affection, yet he doesn't seem to acknowledge it, which kinda feels at times like he doesn't acknowledge you. I have been there, and I remember it hurts a lot. I don't know how long you two have been together, or how serious your relationship is, but I think the only thing that matters is you are going to accept this is who he is. Sounds like you want to be ok with this, but it also sounds like it's not the first time, and these things make relationships deteriorate over time. I really hope you work things out, it sounds like you are a very sweet person. |
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Mar 24, 2024 at 03:44 AM
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I also liked a very emotionally repressed person. He didn’t show much emotion and he himself thought he had a blank face. Internally he was very scared and anxious. I was openly anxious and yet I liked showing love. But it’s alright, things have changed. He said he has to focus on studying and we didn’t date because he wasn’t ready. I respect that and yet I feel I should have known. That I’d get emotionally involved.
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