I think I lost a good friend

Well it's been a while. I'm feeling sad and anxious because I may have lost the only good friend I really care about. She told me yesterday that she was engaged (yes she's in a relationship and I don't like the guy but I'm biased) and I had an immediate emotional reaction. Now I know what you're thinking - you're in love with her. I don't deny I have feelings for her but I guess they're never going to get expressed. Over the last year or so I've been talking to her and she's also on all my social media sites. She would often comment on my posts and show concern for my mental health (wow). I was well aware she wa in a relationship but now it looks serious. She text me the other day and told me I was invited to the wedding. When I text her back I told her I couldn't go. Well she wanted to know why? I knew it was because my anxiety had increased substantially since she shared her "good news" and I don't think I want to watch her get married because I'm almost sure that will curtail any relationship we have. Long story short - she will leave dent in my already isolated existence. I'm really mourning this and it's hard to share her happiness. Thanks!

Hi there,

Well other sex relationships can be complicated, and trust me I know 85% of my friends are women. Now love and friendship have something kind of in common, in a friendship you should want that person to be happy above all, being there for someone and wanting her best interest will make you a good friend. Now love on the other end, is somewhat the same however its harder to seeing them being happy WITH SOMEONE ELSE, and I think that is the hardest deal. Now you say that you dont like the guy, that is touchy, you can talk to her about it depending on how deep your relationship is, but only if you are sure that they are reason that could harm her or would cause her to not be happy in the future. Be very careful if you go this road however, always make it pass like a comment any NEVER think for her, meaning that you can make friendly comment to her on the man in question but never imply that hes not the right man for her. She is the only one who can think about that. If you do she will put her guards up and it might get ugly.

Hope it helps a bit

Thanks I'm afraid to respond because I'm sad not happy that she is with this guy - I'm a little thin skinned and sensitive so I'm afraid I'll say something I'll regret
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