[newtus]

My relationship with my mom is very unstable and useless.

It started when I was a kid. She didnt want anything to do with me. Talked down to me, had me bring her beers over and over every night after work so she could sit and watch tv, never told anyone i was her daughter, never ever spent time with me. Etc

Eventually she left my dad for someone else. Im 26 now. Live with my dad. Who has been the person who helped me through my illness the most, respects me, spends as much time as he can with me, etc. My memories of my past are made with him. All of them.

Fast forward now, my relationship wit my mom is rockier than ever. She never ever ever (did i mention ever?) comes to see me, never wants to to meet, doesnt want me at her house, rarely calls me.

Theres not much good things about her. She has spent a lot of money on me. She seems to think if she buys me something she owns me and i should respect her.

Idk what to do. I called her today about wanting a better more stable relationship and she talked about severing ties with her.

Ive been trying MY LITERAL WHOLE LIFE to have a relationship with her. She just doesnt care.

I think part of it is because i remind her of my dad. My sister is my half sister. Same mom. Doenst know her dad. Shes much older, but my mom does so much for her when she asks. sister is on the other side of the state and my mom visits her every now and then. I live an hour away from my mom and cant get a visit. My sister lives 10 hours away.

I say im confused but maybe i shouldnt be. Its probably so clear and im prob so blind.

[Angelique67]

Im so sorry shes like that. Shes supposed to be your mom for Gods sake! I hate just HATE it when parents and people close to you in life just abandon you like this! Its just not fair. I hope she'll open her eyes sometime soon and just accept you.

[newtus]

Thanks angelique and dax.

I dont think shell come around until shes sick on her deathbed. Ive been at this relationship for many years. Over 15. If 15 years dont change it then nothing will.

People dont change.

[MickeyCheeky]

Sounds horrible.. I'm sorry you've experienced this. It's always hard when you can't connect with your mother Hope you'll be able to move on, someday.

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by newtus

Thanks angelique and dax.

I dont think shell come around until shes sick on her deathbed. Ive been at this relationship for many years. Over 15. If 15 years dont change it then nothing will.

People dont change.

I've heard that saying, but I no longer really believe it. I think people can change if they want to. If not, then bad things will collects and change someone from the outside in.

[Angelique67]

This phone seems to work now!