[rdgrad15]

I feel like some people use the excuse that they are having a bad day as an excuse to mistreat others. Same for people who are going through a bad time or are just, in general, in a bad mood. I know sometimes people need to vent to others about their frustrations, but to actually treat someone rudely and then say they are just having a bad day seems like a cop out to be rude in my opinion. I feel like they are just trying to bring someone down and then use the excuse to prevent retaliation.

I could be having the worst day of my life, and I will still treat people with respect. Yes, depending on who is around me, I may vent or talk about what is going on in order to get advice or just to get something off my chest, but I never actively seek out to lash out and be rude to others. That's why I don't give a crap about some of the excuses people give at times. If they are in a bad mood, they can still treat others with respect.

I don't get why some people think it is okay to do this. If I had to guess, it would be that they are looking for ways to bring someone down to build themselves up. They are trying to make themselves feel better by making someone else feel awful. I think that is disrespectful and rude. When people do that to me, I feel like they are just simply trying to be rude.

Has anyone experienced this? I feel like there is no excuse. People can vent, nothing wrong with that. But to actually be rude and treat people like crap is unacceptable in my opinion. It makes me feel like people who do that are either trying to make themselves feel better if they are feeling crappy, or they are not even going through a bad time and are just making up an excuse. How do you deal with it? Just wondered.

[Trippin2.0]

I've treated people badly or behaved rudely when having a bad day, and when I say "bad day" I actually mean bad week and I'm suffering from agitation caused by my bipolar.

No I don't do it to make myself better or bring others down, and its certainly not an excuse. Usually my self awareness is very low at that point and I only realize after the fact that I've been a complete biyotch, or I'm called out on my behavior.

Which is when I realize how badly agitated I've been, explain myself and apologize.

If someone says sorry for their crappy behavior and rectifies it, I believe they're being sincere, if they say "sorry bad mood, bad day" and continue to be an asswipe, THEN I would definitely question their motives behind apologizing and explaining.

On a side note: All your threads seem to centre around questioning the behavior of others, I have to admit, my curiosity has been piqued. Are u just generally surrounded by crappy people or are you on some quest to understand negative human behavior?

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

On a side note: All your threads seem to centre around questioning the behavior of others, I have to admit, my curiosity has been piqued. Are u just generally surrounded by crappy people or are you on some quest to understand negative human behavior?

I am curious about this as well, glad I'm not the only one!

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

I've treated people badly or behaved rudely when having a bad day, and when I say "bad day" I actually mean bad week and I'm suffering from agitation caused by my bipolar.

No I don't do it to make myself better or bring others down, and its certainly not an excuse. Usually my self awareness is very low at that point and I only realize after the fact that I've been a complete biyotch, or I'm called out on my behavior.

Which is when I realize how badly agitated I've been, explain myself and apologize.

If someone says sorry for their crappy behavior and rectifies it, I believe they're being sincere, if they say "sorry bad mood, bad day" and continue to be an asswipe, THEN I would definitely question their motives behind apologizing and explaining.

On a side note: All your threads seem to centre around questioning the behavior of others, I have to admit, my curiosity has been piqued. Are u just generally surrounded by crappy people or are you on some quest to understand negative human behavior?

Oh okay. And it is both. Some threads are from crappy people and some threads, like this one, is just understanding what some people do. Nothing bad happened that made me post this thread.

[MickeyCheeky]

Well, it depends on the person..if someone doesn't do it that often, and they apologize for it, then I don't think it's an excuse. But if it becomes a normal behavior for them, then yeah, I'd start doubting as well..

[lizardlady]

Like others have said, I think it depends on the individual and the situation. I believe most of us have snapped at someone on a bad day.I know I have. To me the key is what the person does afterward. If they apologise and stop the behavior it I believe they really were having a bad day. If they just keep doing it they are just plain rude.

I've experienced this too, and feel the same way as you do.
One person, who according to him has "clinical depression", used to put down people (like me) who remind him of what he hates about himself. It was overtime a damaging relationship where I felt damaged, and cut him off. The frustrating things is, after all attempts to settle things with him, he "doesn't understand why I left him".
He had a childhood past of school bullying and used to claim he may have "clinical depression", yet he does the same to people. I wish I could confront him and tell this to him straight in the face, but I was too frustrated with him from the pain he caused me overtime.
Another person would go impulsive on people, being snide or rude, and if questioned or confronted, he'd raise his voice in aggression. Had enough of him.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian

I've experienced this too, and feel the same way as you do.
One person, who according to him has "clinical depression", used to put down people (like me) who remind him of what he hates about himself. It was overtime a damaging relationship where I felt damaged, and cut him off. The frustrating things is, after all attempts to settle things with him, he "doesn't understand why I left him".
He had a childhood past of school bullying and used to claim he may have "clinical depression", yet he does the same to people. I wish I could confront him and tell this to him straight in the face, but I was too frustrated with him from the pain he caused me overtime.
Another person would go impulsive on people, being snide or rude, and if questioned or confronted, he'd raise his voice in aggression. Had enough of him.

I have a friend that is the same way. I don't feel close to her anymore due to her being very rude and claiming to have depression. She basically pushed many people away, and even damaged her relationship between her and her boyfriend. So I know exactly how you feel. Yeah people like that can be rude and sometimes I think they use the excuse of having a disorder as an excuse.

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

I feel like some people use the excuse that they are having a bad day as an excuse to mistreat others. Same for people who are going through a bad time or are just, in general, in a bad mood. I know sometimes people need to vent to others about their frustrations, but to actually treat someone rudely and then say they are just having a bad day seems like a cop out to be rude in my opinion. I feel like they are just trying to bring someone down and then use the excuse to prevent retaliation.

I could be having the worst day of my life, and I will still treat people with respect. Yes, depending on who is around me, I may vent or talk about what is going on in order to get advice or just to get something off my chest, but I never actively seek out to lash out and be rude to others. That's why I don't give a crap about some of the excuses people give at times. If they are in a bad mood, they can still treat others with respect.

I don't get why some people think it is okay to do this. If I had to guess, it would be that they are looking for ways to bring someone down to build themselves up. They are trying to make themselves feel better by making someone else feel awful. I think that is disrespectful and rude. When people do that to me, I feel like they are just simply trying to be rude.

Has anyone experienced this? I feel like there is no excuse. People can vent, nothing wrong with that. But to actually be rude and treat people like crap is unacceptable in my opinion. It makes me feel like people who do that are either trying to make themselves feel better if they are feeling crappy, or they are not even going through a bad time and are just making up an excuse. How do you deal with it? Just wondered.

I know that occasionally at work I might snap at someone, and then I immediately apologize and explain that I'm stressed about something or, yes, "having a bad day," but it's as part of my apologizing for taking it out on them. I'm not using it as an excuse to treat them poorly, I'm just explaining that I'm sorry I took my bad day out on them.

Is that what you were talking about?

Seesaw

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by seesaw

I know that occasionally at work I might snap at someone, and then I immediately apologize and explain that I'm stressed about something or, yes, "having a bad day," but it's as part of my apologizing for taking it out on them. I'm not using it as an excuse to treat them poorly, I'm just explaining that I'm sorry I took my bad day out on them.

Is that what you were talking about?

Seesaw

Yeah basically. It is one thing to vent or want to be left alone but it is another thing to constantly be rude to someone and not apologize, and just say they were having a bad day as an excuse to be rude.