Despite everything else seeming to take a turn for the better in my personal life right now, there is still one thing that has me feeling rather depressed.

For some reason, I seem to be craving non sexual touch from a female such as hugs, holding hands, or cuddling. I'm not really interested in sex at this time and I don't consider myself ready for a relationship yet with all of the other stuff going on in my life, but I still have this deep seeded need that I need to take care of somehow.

It sucks that I literally have no women in my life that live close to me. Every woman that I know lives several hours away and seeing them would obviously not be doable for me.

It also doesn't help that I have an extremely difficult time approaching women. I'm socially awkward and am typically too lost in my own head focusing on my life and ideas to find things to talk about. Yeah sure when I have money I can flash expensive electronics, clothes, and accessories around which draws them to me or hire somebody off Craigslist, but when I'm still in a low place financially, I am utterly hopeless when it comes to attracting women in real life.

Anybody have experience with this?

I remember watching some thing about a woman who cuddles professionally - no sex, just cuddling. So you are definitely not the only one who has that desire!

I think it's a very human need, and it's a shame you don't have that in your life right now.

Perhaps you can make new female friends who are like minded? I'm sure there will be women out there who have the same needs.

[Shadix]

Yup same here. Most people don't seem to understand this, the usual assumption seems to be that a guy either wants a relationship or he wants sex. But for me I crave having a girl genuinely into it, so no, a "professional cuddler" or a prostitute would not suffice.

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

Perhaps you can make new female friends who are like minded? I'm sure there will be women out there who have the same needs.

That's the thing though. I still have difficulties approaching women, even for friendships without coming off as creepy. I'm often socially awkward and struggle socializing about just about anything that's not business related.

When they approach me, I can do well conversing with them but not the other way around.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

I remember watching some thing about a woman who cuddles professionally - no sex, just cuddling. So you are definitely not the only one who has that desire!

Yeah, they actually have a thing called cuddle cafes. They first started in Japan because their culture is so heavily focused on careers that many people there don't have time to be in a relationship. They now have them in Canada I believe and they have one in NWC in the US.

I wish they had one by me right now

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

That's the thing though. I still have difficulties approaching women, even for friendships without coming off as creepy. I'm often socially awkward and struggle socializing about just about anything that's not business related.

When they approach me, I can do well conversing with them but not the other way around.

I think it's great you can respond when women approach you, that's a good place to start.