[MyBestKids2]

I was adopted as an infant because my adoptive mother couldn't have any more kids than my "sister" who is 9 years older than me. Seven years ago, my mother was given 1-3 months to live and asked that I come take care of her during her dying days. I didn't understand why me since she treated me the worst, but I went, without question. It meant leaving my husband 800 miles away to take care of our then 3 and 5 year old children for an undeterminted amount of time, and taking unpaid leave from work.

Mom only lasted 1 month after my arrival. My "sister" was angry at me because I was "chosen" to aid my mother during her last days. Suffice it to say, we have been totally estranged since Sept. 2000. We were never close because of our beliefs and age difference, but I have thought about her over the years. I knew she and her husband always kept their phonenumber unpublished. However, I was able to find her daughter (my niece) in the white pages. I called, my niece answered, I told her who I was, and she said "What the he** do you want". I politely told her I wanted to give her my address and phone number in case her Mom wanted to contact me. Then she proceeded with "How in the fu** did you get my number"?. I slowly told her it was listed in the white pages. I gave her my number (which I know she did NOT write down), said nice talking to ya, and hung up.

That was 2 weeks ago. No word from anyone since. I guess I should feel better because I tried, but now I am even more confused because my niece was so mean to me.

k, all done now. thanks for listening!

Oh, Dee... What an horrible situation!

Your heart is filled with love and compassion for others and for you to take care of your mother like that... so unselfish of you.
You did the right thing by following your heart!

To feel jealous about such a thing... really tells something about your sister and her daughter. They don't have the same kind of heart as you have. You did a beautiful thing trying to get in contact with them... you really did. You reached out... they decided not to do the same.... that makes you a greater human being.

I'm sorry, Dee!

((((((((((((( Dee )))))))))))))))

[bebop]

I am so sorry this happened to you. She doesn't deserve to have a sister like you! it is her loss hon. you tried. it isn't you sweetie.

[Wants2Fly]

I also am sorry this happened to you. I know it must sting; my brother is not always kind to me, and my neice ignored me, though things have gotten better in recent years.

I think you did the right thing. Things can never get better, even a little bit, unless someone takes the step of reaching out. And being rebuffed. I do not think my bro and I will ever be close, bec. of things that were said and done, but sending little cards, emails, spaced far apart, eventually overcame a no-contact-at-all rift caused by a huge fight we had, that included me striking him.

You done good.

[nothemama8]

Dee, you have us as your family now, we understand your pain, my blood sister and I don't get along either, in fact when we were hospitilized years ago she had papers sent to me she said " if I would sign these papers giving up my share of Mamas house she would be my friend" dummy me signed them and we haven't spoken in 6 years
We LOVE YOU
Angie

[meander]

((((Dee)))

you're such a nice person!