Ok so I really want to be understood by other people and I don't think people know me or try to understand me. I want people to know who I am and I have a hard time explaining myself. I also want people to try to understand me. I'll try talking about something with other people and it doesn't seem they're trying to understand my feelings. I try to be an understanding person if people come to me to talk about something but people don't do the same for me and I also want people to get to know me and not just assume things about me. This is part of the reason I feel lonely all the time. It really bothers me and I hate it. I really want to connect with other people and they wouldn't think of me as someone that does.

[Keeki04]

Reality, has set the stage for people to act the way they want to act. No one will be more understanding then yourself, I say to display yourself assertively. You can't care for what other people think of, but you can control yourself. Be who you are and not focus on what you think you have to be.

[BrazenApogee]

Feeling understood and to belong is important. I don't have any secret method, as I have problems with it myself. I think it's all a learning process.

Yeah some people are just not very compassionate people but I do at least have a couple friends who are more understanding that I can talk to. Usually when I try to talk about my problems people will talk down to me or be negative towards me and then im afraid to talk about things.

[Keeki04]

Then you know off the bat those aren't the people you want in your circle. You might have to be picky about who your friends are (in my learning experience this is some what true for me). I have associates, then friends, then good friend. Think about who you want to connect with and how your going to do that. Planning never hurt, and also try to pick up information about the people you want to befriend from your inner circle. This might spark interesting conversation that opens the door for more opportunities.

[s4ndm4n2006]

First off, whether these people are acquaintances or close friends is the question that comes to my mind. Because for someone to care enough to try and understand someone else not only takes the type of person who cares about people but also has a reason to be invested in putting time into learning about you. This, takes trust and friendship first. Not everyone is going to be as understanding as the next person but people you're tied to loosely even less so.

Some guy I work with and see at the office everyday isn't going to care about my inner workings, personality and life. The guy I hang out with regularly and is my close friend is more likely to do so, but again this depends on the person too. some friends are just not the ones I'd talk to over others.

So my point is, don't give up. Make friends, build trust and connection with people and then figure out which ones are the "listeners" in the crowd.

[MickeyCheeky]

Yeah, it can be a struggle.. but there are people out there who care. Keep looking, I'm sure you'll find someone