[Nixx]

Last night I made arrangements for my two adult sons my 82 year old father and my boyfriend of 6 months to celebrate my birthday. Everyone had had a few beers and by the to.ensure we got to the restaurant everyone was in high spirits.. However this changed when I got up to dance with my eldest son when my boyfriend had left the table to go to the men's room. He had left his wallet and cell phone on the table and on returning and not finding me looking after it.. This lead to him immediately getting upset.. my 24 year old son and 28 year old son reacted to my boyfriends confrontation to the point that my 24 year old punched my boyfriend.. However it didn't stop there.. on leaving the restaurant it escalated .. I tried to calm things by talking to my boyfriend but this didn't help.. my son's were angered with my boyfriend accusingly pointing his finer in my face and when my son's were in the car wanting to drive away my boyfriend do stepped up to my drivers windows and smacked it. My eldest son of 28 got out the car and confronted my boyfriend which also got my 24 year old out of the car. A fist fight ensued and as I had asked my boyfriend not to fight he ended up with a bruised face. I am distraught and don't know what to do about this situation. Can someone help!

[Molinit]

Drop the boyfriend.

No more alcohol for everyone.

[s4ndm4n2006]

your boyfriend sounds like a d**che. I don't know if I would defend your sons' fighting with him physically but I can understand it. he sounds like he did enough to deserve it. On your birthday of all days he humiliates you in front of your loved ones and in a public place.

[Trippin2.0]

Lose the jerkass boyfriend

[Bill3]

Goodbye to the boyfriend.

[metalchick]

Yeah get rid of that jerk.

[Crazy Hitch]

I was born in South Africa and emigrated here to Australia when I was 28.

I don't need to explain to you then what leaving a wallet and cellphone on a table in that country where you live means ..... precisely part of the reason I emigrated (I'm not talking wallets, I'm talking crime in general)

Point blank - he could have taken the cellphone with him to the toilet.

That's what I always used to do there. I sure as hell didn't leave my stuff lying around. Or at very least I would have handed it to someone sitting at the table and said please watch this for a minute.

His initial reaction was one of fright. I'd poop myself if I came back from the toilet there and saw my stuff unattended.

However. I sure as hell wouldn't accuse the party sitting at the table of being responsible for my possessions. Your bf knows bloody well the crime statistics there. His reaction was out of line.

But.

Your sons threw the first punch. Your bf did not accost them first.

You asked your bf not to fight but he would have been so riled up by then - he was, after all, physically attacked. First. And it was your sons who drastically overstepped the mark at this point. I would have told all of them not to fight to be frank.

I don't like the way your bf treats you. Waving fingers in your face? I mean come on - it was your birthday and you're all adults.

I also know in S.A. it's unlikely there'd be any charges and even if there were nothing would come out of them.

It's a very nasty situation. And considering you've been with him for 6 months (which I know probably feels like a lot longer ...) I'd be making some serious decisions as to whether or not I'd want to continue a relationship like that; given the absolute extreme magnitude that this whole incident is going to cause your family.

[~Christina]

Drop the idiot pronto

[Bill3]

How was your 82-year-old father after that incident?