[Lil87]

Im having problems with my boyfriend who has been diagnosed with aspergers and others anxiety problems and ocd. The issue Is that i have a Lot of issues too , im a sex and love addict and im borderline. This makes the relationship too hard.
Ive already cheated once and have almost done it a second Time.i know its no excuse but my need for love Is so big that sometimes because of His problem he cant give me what i want and i seek it somewhere else. I have come clean about the cheating and he has forgiven me but i never want to do it again. I love him so much and he Loves me too. I want this relationship to work but i dont know how to explain the lack of communication we have and how that affects me . When i say to him that we have problems he ignores it and say we are fine and that doesnt make me
want to stop seeking love in others.please help (btw Sorry for the english)

[frigidClemency]

If you really want this relationship to work, you probably gotta find a way for you to both receive what you crave, if you already have had the urge to cheat a second time, then you have to act quickly. Cheating is an active choice, and if you feel like you have to because he doesn't give you the love you need, maybe this relationship isn't for you. Communication is key, and without it you'll be lost, if its hard to actively communicate with him, then seek some help from others. Also if you aren't already taking any, consider medication, its not for everyone, and sometimes makes things worse, but give it some thought.
While this isn't my strong suit, I think that the most important thing is to just do something, figure out the core problems and fix them.

[MickeyCheeky]

It's clear that this relationship has some problems that needs to be talked about.. but if your own bf denies them, then it's kinda difficult You both have to seek for the same thing, otherwise it's never gonna work..

[Stuck1nhead]

Well it takes two to make a relationship work. If he isn't willing to recognize a problem, let alone make an effort to fix it. Then you might not be suited for one another.

[Trippin2.0]

Sounds like a huge mismatch.

Just because we want something to work doesn't mean it can and will.

[Crazy Hitch]

You should consider couples therapy.

[Erebos]

I am with Trippin here this sounds almost an impossible match.
It's not that he is denying there is a problem, it's just his fundamental emotional being is SOO different from the OP's he probably genuinely doesn't feel there is a problem.

Your asking someone who is physically wired completely differently to the point where their own responses to situations can seem inappropriate, to anticipate your emotions. That just isn't something he can do.
For a start he might simply just not recognise some more subtle emotions.
Or may easily mistake one emotion for another.

Have you really looked into aspergers and ASD? And how it might interact with being Borderline.
A specialist would be your best bet.

Hope you can work it out.All the best.