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Default Apr 13, 2017 at 09:04 PM
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Today I got in a car accident. I'm shaken up still. I stupidly messed up and didn't get all the info I needed, so now I don't know what do or hope for. There's nothing good that came out of this incident. I got chewed out by mom and sister. I'm 27, grad student and teacher. I pay bills on time and live with my sister but it's become the little things that I do that make me incapable of making it on my own. At times, I don't pay attention. Other times, I'm clueless and lack the confidence to do things. I'm just not cut out for this life.

For most of my life, my sister and mom have been there for me to help me with my problems. My sister believes that when she's gone, I will not make it on my own. She also told me to stop being sensitive. I do take some things personally but I can't help it when I need to cry, when I can't find words to say. When it comes down to solving problems myself, I'm clueless. Perhaps, that's why guys don't want to be with me. But I need to learn how to do things and figure things out so I can help myself.

I just posted something a couple of days ago on another thread about how stressed I've been. This has been the most crappy week. I just don't know how to handle it.

I needed to vent and this doesn't make sense. I wish I had money to take all this away from me.
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Default Apr 13, 2017 at 09:53 PM
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I hope things will go better soon.
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Try to believe in yourself, I'm sure there's many people on here that would believe in you.

I do hope that things get better for you.
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Honestly, I'm not okay. I have back pain now. And now I'm feeling super down about myself because of this whole mess.
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Some of my worst or biggest mistakes are often related to seemingly-simple matters for other people, and neither would I do well if completely on my own. Some of us are more needy than others in relation to all of that, and I encourage you to embrace those kinds of facts about ourselves rather than trying to be "like everyone else".

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Default Apr 17, 2017 at 08:16 AM
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Honestly, I'm not okay. I have back pain now. And now I'm feeling super down about myself because of this whole mess.
I'm sorry you're having a tough time. It can be easy for things to bring you down I know. I'm ultra sensitive and that is something that makes life extra hard. I also have a complicated relationship with my sister. You're not alone. I believe in you and I'm here for you if you need to talk. Since you just had an accident maybe you should get the back pain checked out by a doctor. Be gentle with yourself and take it one step at a time.

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Default Apr 17, 2017 at 11:35 AM
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Today I got in a car accident. I'm shaken up still. I stupidly messed up and didn't get all the info I needed, so now I don't know what do or hope for. There's nothing good that came out of this incident. I got chewed out by mom and sister. I'm 27, grad student and teacher. I pay bills on time and live with my sister but it's become the little things that I do that make me incapable of making it on my own. At times, I don't pay attention. Other times, I'm clueless and lack the confidence to do things. I'm just not cut out for this life.

For most of my life, my sister and mom have been there for me to help me with my problems. My sister believes that when she's gone, I will not make it on my own. She also told me to stop being sensitive. I do take some things personally but I can't help it when I need to cry, when I can't find words to say. When it comes down to solving problems myself, I'm clueless. Perhaps, that's why guys don't want to be with me. But I need to learn how to do things and figure things out so I can help myself.

I just posted something a couple of days ago on another thread about how stressed I've been. This has been the most crappy week. I just don't know how to handle it.

I needed to vent and this doesn't make sense. I wish I had money to take all this away from me.
If you ask me, the way that you describe yourself, the manner in which you do, I mean, seems to be your sister and mother describing their analysis of you. The way that you point out how they criticize you. And the things you say just seem to me to be things that people tend to tell others when they are talking down to them or trying to run their life. Just an observation but only you can say whether or not this is likely true.

Look, you're a grad student first of all. Irresponsible directionless people who cant' survive in life typically don't make it that far in their education. period. Getting through years of college and sticking with it takes life survival.

You pay your bills on time. yet another life survival skill. Do you realize how many people dont' even know or succeed in taking care of this part of their lives? You seem to be doing that as well.

As for the accident, most of us, unless reckless drivers, don't get into accidents on a routine basis. Forgetting to take care of part of what you needed to is understandable as it's not something we (any of us) have a lot of practice doing, thank God. Forgive yourself of minor mistakes and ignore the noise of those that would put us under a microscope for detailed analysis and criticism.
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