[galeckifan]

There's this guy that I have known for 16 years since middle school and we have been in different church groups together and recently I had some dreams about being with him romantically. I haven't had dreams like that about him until a month ago. Over the last seven months I have been involved in 2 different church groups with him where we see each other twice a week, and before that we hadn't seen each other in years since I went to his Baptist Church in high school. I'm starting to kind of have feelings for him which is weird to me because I have never felt that way about him before. But alot of the time he doesn't show much interest in talking to me and a lot of times says hi in a short tone or barely at all and hardly talks to me, whereas he talks a lot to the other girls. So I don't know if he likes me or what the deal is, why he acts like this towards me.
A couple nights ago I tried to say hi to him several times and all he did was glance at me and wave, didnt say hi back. And kept ignoring me, while he was talking to the other girls. And I overheard him making plans with a girl to go out and giving her his number! Omg and then he and a friend were talking and he mentioned this guy who hasnt been in awhile and so I asked where has he been why isnt he here tonight and he said you seem very interested in him, do you like him? I... said no, and he said is there anyone you like and I said yes, and he asked who, do I know him?. Um what? I didnt know what to say so I said maybe, and he said does he know you like him and I said I doubt it so he said you should tell him. Why would I do that when he doesnt even say hi and barely acknowledges me and makes plans to go out with another girl? And then when he was leaving I said bye and he said bye in a short tone and I said it was nice to see you, and he just looked down with a weirded out look on his face. why?
And then last night when I said hi ihe only said hello in a short tone and then immediately turned and started talking to these other girls, then sat down with an empty space next to him and when I walked up to him he gave me a weird look and then this other girl came over and he gestured to have her sit next to him. but not me. And then later another time I was sitting with an empty spot next to me and instead of sitting next to me he went over across the room and sat somewhere else. why?

[BreakForTheLight]

Haven't I read this post before?

[Bill3]

I cannot know why he did what he did.

Right now it does not seem to occur to him that you might be a romantic interest for him. How do you think he would react if you took the risk of showing more interest in him?

[Crazy Hitch]

Is this a new church?

You had a lot of trouble in your old church and were even cautioned by your pastor.

Word catches wind and reputations are hard to get rid of.

[Erebos]

This has been posted before,posting it a second time doesn't change the answer I am afraid.

The guy isn't interested, and is giving clear signals to this effect.
Confronting you in asking who your interested in is his attempt to get you to look elsewhere.
Sorry this isn't what you want to hear but, it is what it is.

[yunesa]

Sorry Gal,

Sorry to say....this guy is not even remotely interested so let it go. Be interested in other extra curricular activities to let your mind off of him. But it seems you are sending off vibes of being interested in this guy as men typically picks up easily who has a crush on them or who likes them...just ignore your feelings for him and it will fade. Concentrate and focus more on your studies.

Hugs for you...

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by galeckifan

There's this guy that I have known for 16 years since middle school and we have been in different church groups together and recently I had some dreams about being with him romantically. I haven't had dreams like that about him until a month ago. Over the last seven months I have been involved in 2 different church groups with him where we see each other twice a week, and before that we hadn't seen each other in years since I went to his Baptist Church in high school. I'm starting to kind of have feelings for him which is weird to me because I have never felt that way about him before. But alot of the time he doesn't show much interest in talking to me and a lot of times says hi in a short tone or barely at all and hardly talks to me, whereas he talks a lot to the other girls. So I don't know if he likes me or what the deal is, why he acts like this towards me.
A couple nights ago I tried to say hi to him several times and all he did was glance at me and wave, didnt say hi back. And kept ignoring me, while he was talking to the other girls. And I overheard him making plans with a girl to go out and giving her his number! Omg and then he and a friend were talking and he mentioned this guy who hasnt been in awhile and so I asked where has he been why isnt he here tonight and he said you seem very interested in him, do you like him? I... said no, and he said is there anyone you like and I said yes, and he asked who, do I know him?. Um what? I didnt know what to say so I said maybe, and he said does he know you like him and I said I doubt it so he said you should tell him. Why would I do that when he doesnt even say hi and barely acknowledges me and makes plans to go out with another girl? And then when he was leaving I said bye and he said bye in a short tone and I said it was nice to see you, and he just looked down with a weirded out look on his face. why?
And then last night when I said hi ihe only said hello in a short tone and then immediately turned and started talking to these other girls, then sat down with an empty space next to him and when I walked up to him he gave me a weird look and then this other girl came over and he gestured to have her sit next to him. but not me. And then later another time I was sitting with an empty spot next to me and instead of sitting next to me he went over across the room and sat somewhere else. why?

I'm sorry but he doesn't feel the same way. And according to another poster, you posted this before. Doing that will not change thoug since you will get the same response from anyone on any social media site. Sounds like this is a new church or new group since you haven't posted about your old one in awhile. Please try to not make the same mistakes as last time. Move on and hang out with people who actually show interest in you.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm not sure I've got the whole story.. but it's clear that he's ot interested. So I think moving on is really the best thing you can do. Sorry..

[A Red Panda]

Gal, it sounds like you have joined a new church which is great. But don't forget about your last one - you thought you had a closer relationship to other members than you did, and you ignored all the signs that they were not comfortable.

Please don't repeat that experience at your new church. This guy doesn't even show any signs of wanting to be a friend, let alone more. Your posts makes it sound like you feel you have some claim to him, some right to be upset with him for not sitting next to you and giving his number to other girls.

[ManPatia]

Yes I do think...moving on is the best option