[mneeley21]

Im not good at talking to guys. So I need advice on what to do? Can anyone help?

[wolfgaze]

The best way to talk to anyone and everyone is to be your authentic, natural, and genuine 'self' at that time in your life (whatever it may be)... When people try to adopt a certain way of talking/behaving in order to make a specific or desired impression upon others (usually the opposite sex) - they'll never be able to feel comfortable in their own skin because they are not remaining true to themselves. It's like they are putting up a front, playing a role, and 'acting' in order to obtain some imagined favorable reaction/response. This doesn't work out and does not lead to feelings of contentment, acceptance, and peace of mind.

Either ask for help and advice or help them. For instance, when I worked as a bus girl in high school, the two dishwashers at the restaurant were close to my age. The dishes would be so piled up at the end of the evening that I would pitch in and help them wash dishes when they stopped serving dinner. I got more hours that way but we also talked and clowned around while working. Like the racoons we would watch when putting out the trash (I would say, "come look, the whole family is making a huge racket, etc.); items we would need to put in the huge walk-in freezer (it was in the basement and there were opportunities to scare each other down there--we were all guilty of hiding behind things in that dark basement in order to scare each other when someone needed to go in there), the high power dish sprayer, etc. It sometimes led to hanging out after work (they were just friends).
In college, I was trying to get in shape but none of my gfs wanted to run at 9:00 PM at night so I was doing it by myself. Then there was a bunch of "apologetic serial rapist" incidents. Places where I was running were actually starting to be marked with Xs with the date that a rape occurred in some of the spots I was running at. I was aquainted with a guy in our "twin" dorm (the one next to ours that we had parties with). Though I did not know him that well, I saw him running around the college mall about the same time I went running so I asked him if I could run with him for my safety and he said "Yes". When we ran, we would talk about our other workouts and what we were eating (we were also just friends). When I was in the Air Force, my friend from AFROTC would run regularly with me on the flightline at lunch before I met H. We were just friends, but, in this case, we had a lot in common to talk about because we had been in AFROTC together in college before being assigned to the same base. If you join the military, you will have plenty of chances to talk to guys. When I was in the military, they always wanted to help me and give me advice.....

Originally Posted by Hopingtrying

when I worked as a bus girl in high school, the two dishwashers at the restaurant were close to my age. The dishes would be so piled up at the end of the evening that I would pitch in and help them wash dishes when they stopped serving dinner. I got more hours that way but we also talked and clowned around while working.

Perception is a funny thing. Because of my self confidence, I assumed I did not mean that much to these guys and didn't talk to them that much while at class in high school. But recently, while organizing some books I opened up one of my yearbooks and looked at some of the end of year notes written by classmates. One of these guys wrote the nicest note ever in the book and thanked me sincerely for the times we enjoyed at and after work. I don't know if you are young but sometimes our perception of ourself is scewed in the sense that we do not always give ourselves enough credit. Perhaps they also assumed that I didn't want to be friends outside of work either (neither of them had gfs--they still had a lot of growing and maturing to do but so did I!) You are probably an interesting person--it is only confidence that holds you back!

[Sunflower123]

I don't know whether you are a reader or not but there are excellent books in print and on kindle for making small talk and starting conversations with people. Good luck....