[hvert]

I do genealogy as a hobby. A cousin found my research last year and reached out. We exchanged family history information. She added me as a friend on a few social media platforms. We didn't have many deep conversations, just a lot of likes, comments, etc. We planned to meet someday. I don't post a ton on FB, maybe a status update once every two weeks about a cooking project or place I visited. Yesterday I tried to look up an address she had sent me 10 days ago. I couldn't see it because she had defriended me!

That sort of messed up my day. I kept wondering why she had done it. But why do I care about things like that??? The amount of unhappiness it added to my day is ridiculous compared to the actual incident. Does anyone else do this and hate that they do it??

[Bill3]

To me, this experience would be very hurtful.

This was not a defriending by someone who had been out of your life for a long time. Quite the opposite. You had had recent, relatively consistent, and seemingly happy contact with this person over a topic of mutual interrst and importance. As a result, you quite reasonably expected that they were happy to have met you and would remain connected to you via social media. To learn otherwise was a shock and felt, I expect, like a personal and stinging rejection. To me, that would be very hurtful. I'm really sorry for that pain.

In fact, i even wonder if there was some sort of mistake. What if you contacted her again and just asked specifically for what you want to know?

[Sunflower123]

Yes...I do that. Something happens and the emotional reaction seems out of proportion to what happened. I dislike it as well. Having said that, that would hurt my feelings as well. That wasn't a very nice or necessary thing to do. As the previous poster said...you could contact her if you're up to it. Best wishes...

[hvert]

Thank you both, it's nice to know I'm not the only one who is upset about something like this. I did contact her a different way and received a response an hour ago. She said it was nothing personal, she just couldn't keep up with everyone's updates. And I'm still not sure why she deleted me, since I rarely update! I feel better knowing that I can still email her and that there was nothing I did to annoy her.

A coworker defriended me last year. I didn't like that either.