[yunomi]

The title sounds like im being ungrateful or something but yea thats what i feel right now. I just want to rant. In short, i have a short vacation plan overseas, the place is also close to my country anyway only 1-2 hours flight. Its also safer in general compared to my country. I also have someone close to me who will accompany me during my stay and she also met that person irl already. I'm 24 already anyway. I told her about the plan then she started to be irrational, worry so much about things that probably wont happen and trying to control me by rescheduling my plan by her own without even said anything to me. Also planning if grandma or whoever should come along with me and they expect me paying their expenses too. And this always happens all the time like she tries to control me according her own will only lol. Talking to her wont work because she always makes excuse of what she did. And now i changed my plan a bit and not telling her when is my flight. Actually i dont want to do this to her but i have to do what is right for me because its my life not hers lol. I could say our family is messed up and i got sick of their bs thats why i want to relax for a while far from them.

[Crazy Hitch]

You deserve the break from all her nonsense!

Hope you enjoy it.

[Sunflower123]

You're right to keep your flight change and anything else from her but leave her a note so she doesn't think you're missing.

Enjoy your vacation.

[treevoice]

Have you tried having a compassionate heart-to-heart conversation about boundaries with her? It sounds like she cares about you very much but her efforts to keep you safe are only pushing you away. Maybe some work needs to be done to establish boundaries so you can maintain a healthy and loving relationship. It might be hard for her to swallow at first, but maybe you can guide her to see that it's for the best for both of you if she wants to stay close.