[BlueDaisy1211]

Hello everyone

So I'm married for almost 9 months. My husband went to work abroad and I stayed in my parents house. Before he leaves my mother started developping a depression. I posted here how much I was scared to stay with her especially since I'm the type of people who easily gets pulled down and two years ago she affected me in a way that I had a depression myself. Anyway, so it had been almost two months since he left we talk daily but no more than an hour a day by phone. Since then, I am going through a very hard time.

As for mom I think she is better now the medications are starting to show their benefits. As for me sometimes I feel strong and capable of facing the hardship with patience but in other times like now I feel crushed. In such times, I ask for his support but he answers me in a way that makes me feel worse. He says that he is exhausted himself working all day and travelling 200 km in extreme weather. All I'm asking for is some support with all the circumstances I'm facing (PhD that is not going well, my mom's illness, the difficulty of the distance between us and other family problems). I feel like if I don't get his support during this hard time when will I get it ?? I'm so confused Is this stress making me so needy that I'm asking too much or is it normal for a wife to ask for some emotional support from her husband ? is there a way to ask for such a thing ?? I'm lost ...

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. I think it is appropriate for a wife to expect her husband's support and vice versa. Having said that, you both sound like you have a lot on your plates. How long will this be a long distance marriage?

You sound like you could use the support of a therapist. In the meantime can you talk to your husband about supporting you in the way you need and vice versa? Good luck and best wishes.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm sorry you're not getting the support you need Have you tried to talk to him about this? Perhaps he's so focused on his own problems that he doesn't realize your own feeling about the whole situation. Big hugs

[BlueDaisy1211]

Thank you so much for your responses
Indeed @Mikeycheeky whenever I talk to him about the fact that I need some emotional support he changes the subject and puts himself under the light. He tells me how hard he is working and how tired he is. I totally know that and I do my best to cheer him up but I'm human too and being around my family doesn't make me any better than him. Most of the time we end up fighting and then we get back to normal but things don't get better when I ask him again. I'm disrespecting myself for acting this needy but whenver I remember how happy we were just two months ago I burn from the inside. I'm afraid that this happiness is just fake and that I'm discovering a new face of him when I need him the most ...