[shakespeare47]

Who are the people, or what types of people do you find hardest to deal with?

There is a certain type that I've identified as hard to deal with. They're the people who are loud/outspoken and make overt and covert threats like: "I'm powerful and if you cross me, you will pay."

They're the type that demand a reaction, and let you know in no uncertain terms that if they don't like your reaction, there will be repercussions.

Sometimes these people really are in positions of power, other times, the only power they have is in their own imagination.

[Trippin2.0]

For me its narrow minded people, obnoxious people who believe they are always right, no compromise, my way or the high way types.

I don't think there are people that are difficult to handle for me, I just don't engage with people with some traits because I don't want to be someone else just to deal with them. I avoid people with the following traits: arrogance, condescension, insensitivity, inconsideration, lack of compassion and respect to others, and shallow, just to name a few.

[TishaBuv]

I'm really good at dealing with a lot of different kinds of people NO ONE wants to deal with. But the most difficult type of person for me to deal with is someone who dislikes me, who feels threatened and pulls rank on me, who thinks they've got my number.

Whew.

[scorpiosis37]

Ignorant people. Racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic. Especially when they *think* they aren't and say stupid things like "I'm not racist! I have a black friend!"

[passionfruit3]

Pretty people,spoiled people, teenagers ecspecially girls.ghetto people and family.there all hard to deal with but id say definitely spoiled people and ghetto people

[Shadix]

Judgemental people who love to shame and ridicule others. So what if someone messes up, you can keep your mouth shut about it.

One thing in particular that really gets to me is those who are up in arms about racism, sexism, homophobia, etc. but are quick to justify shaming and ridiculing people who are socially awkward or cognitively slow. Those people are frauds and hypocrites.

[CatWhiskers]

Hi guys!

In my opinion, the hardest people to deal with are egocentrics. I don't mean narcissists. Egocentrics, as far as I am concerned, are those people who think that they are always right, that their opinion is the only one that is right and that everyone should act according to their plan. Also, they tend to be very specific about the do's and don't's of whatever relationship you are involved in with them, but they become very flexible when it comes to your do's and don't's.

I have met a lot of these people across the years and they seem to share the pattern. They set out rules for the friendship, and if you break one, you're dead to them. I guess I could describe the feeling of being around them as constantly having to walk on eggshells fearing you'll break one, and all Hell will be unleashed.

Another type of person that I personally find hard to handle is the emotional blackmailing type. They enjoy the status of victim and will constantly seek reassurance from your part by always role-playing as hurt. I was once friends with a girl who, when I was going through a rough patch, instead of being there for me, would call me crying at night, or write suicidal thoughts to me, so we'd revert back to me being the strong one, and her the one in need of comfort. Before my rough patch, I was always the shoulder she cried on. For a while, I could not be there for her as before because I was in a life-threatening moment, so, instead of caring for me, like I cared for her, she had a meltdown over how I had cad changed.

I eventually had to renounce the friendship altogether.

To me, inflexible, selfish people, and the emotional blackmailing type are the hardest to handle, because they both create this feeling like you're being taken advantage of.

People who release negative vibes just because they feel like it

Someone (a student when I was a teacher and a supervisor in another job come immediately into my mind) who lies (for instance, they stole something or are taking undo credit, ie-they made your job harder not easier, for your hard work) and either I can't prove it or stop it. They were very smart but also very selfish. I just couldn't contain their shananigans. People like this make your job less enjoyable. Usually, since I couldn't "beat em" I would "leave em". Also, I am afraid that people like this make me angry and I can get impulsive when I am angry and do stupid things. (I have stories.)

In case it is entertaining, here is an example of how I reacted to a boss I disliked:

He would manage my projects in a way that created more work and would take up all my time making me create briefings (with slides and graphs) that he presented as his own. At the time, one of my sections was in charge of yearly performance reports for the entire base. Normally, you write them on the people you supervise. He had me write my own and write them on the people he supervised (this was his responsibilty). On one of them--he kept going back and forth having me rewrite/retype even more than usual. When it was finally done--the due date was getting close. It was an embarrassing thing for us to be late because we were in charge of ensuring the entire base wasn't late in completing this task.

It was my practice to clear out my inbox before going home every single night. One night, near the bottom was that performance report; it had been kicked back (was at the general's office for endorsement). Well, I have never told another single person this (I was ashamed and what I did was wrong) but I guess I was just tired and really disliked that boss so I jumped up and put that report in the shredder. This was surely conduct unbecoming of an officer. Of course, now I had a huge case of anxiety from what I had done and soon he asked what the status of that report was. I lied and said I didn't know and would check then went to him later that day and said it was lost (then I had to rerun a new one/figure out again the change we needed to make). He surely knew I was responsible for this snafu because two weeks later he asked if I might be interested in volunteering to work with one of the F-15 Squadron Commanders. Of course I said "yes" and within a month of transferring jobs, the Squadron Commander's boss, a Group Commander, grabbed me to be his executive officer. That was how I obtained one of the best jobs I have ever had. Sometimes the best way to be promoted is to do a bad job.

Narcissists. I was married to one for years. Coniving, manipulative, charismatic. It was hard enough to watch and suffer his inappropriate behavior. Doubly hard was to see people clammoring to be part of his crowd of 'underlings'. Still sickens my stomach when I recognise other narcissists out there.

[shakespeare47]

I also have a hard time dealing with underhanded people. The quiet people who make underhanded comments, or even just snort while you're trying to talk (he hasn't done this in a while, thankfully).

I have someone like that in my classes. There are 4 of us in the same program who are all taking the same classes together. I should be used to it, because I've known him for about 3 years. I'm working on calling him out out, in an even tone. If he snorts again, I might just ask, "did you guys hear that noise?"

[s4ndm4n2006]

self absorbed people. mind you most of the lists already given are true also but no matter the personality, egocentric, controlling, etc... It all comes down to people who think that the world revolves around them. They could be a person with low self esteem and not a narcissist, maybe not even someone that is controlling but they can just as easily think the world revolves around them. There are those that want coddling and pats on the head all the time and there are those that think they know what's best for you and everyone else in the world. Both equally annoying af.

There is so much of this today, so little looking at what the other person is going through and dealing with and so much "me me me" thinking today. That annoys me the most. it doesn't help that 99% of technology today is about "me" .

[shakespeare47]

People who lie in an overtly malicious way.

I've had a few experiences like this..
Person A lies to me. I don't respond... But A tells other people that I believe the lie.

[Nammu]

Self absorbed victim mentality, it's all about poor them and the whole world is rigged against them.

[Sunflower123]

I really dislike superficial, manipulative people. I also dislike people who say I get it about MI when they don't have the slightest clue and their ignorance speaks volumes.

People who think that there always right and people who are uncompassionate. They only want you to understand them. People that want to take advantage of you and people that are controlling. Makes me really mad. But we all have problems and were all human here so I try to remember that but its hard when someone is making you really mad and there not trying to look at your side. They just dont care if they're hurting you emotionally. Also people who just jump to conclusions about things. They dont think.

[~Christina]

YES what Nammu said 100%

[VanGore28]

What I hate most in this world ?? - Sympathy for my "plight" well, f^&k you my illness stole ten years of my life, but I wont bore you with the details. I just want a bit of respect for soldiering on instead of drowning in self pity, or like one nurse told my mother "oh jenny isn't like most of "them" who milk the system for what its worth so they don't need to work and live better than some of the hardest working families (not her exact words but the gist of it)

I DONT WANT SYMPATHY I WANT RESPECT

[Allisonallison]

People who will not consider the possibility that they could be wrong. People who will not consider that someone else might have different opinions /feelings than them. I don't know how to deal with people like this because there is no way to have any sort of relationship with them - if they don't see me as a person with independent feelings/opinions, then I'm just a sounding board and might as well not even be there.

[shakespeare47]

Anyone else ever had someone in your life who would just make assumptions about what you're feeling and what you're thinking and then tell you you're wrong?

My dad was this type of person. Without even asking me about what was going on and without being asked for his input, my dad, on several occasions would say something like, "I know you think X about this situation... you're wrong. Not only that, no one would ever do what you think they did." This is the type of thing he did to my mother, also, on a pretty regular basis.

How do you even unpack that? It doesn't even rise to the level of deserving a response... and yet this was my dad, someone who should have been trying to help me deal with difficult situations.

[Lolina]

Insecure and cowards.
Insecure: people who are jealous of others, people who needs to put others down to bond with others, who spent their time backstabbing, they lie and build up stories to break others so they can appear better. Hypocrites and irrespectful people that you feel the need to put strong boundaries with them.
Cowards: people who attacks or take advantage of others that they know can't defend themselves.