[CJR520]

Our daughter has times where she gets angry at the world and just takes it out on anyone in sight. She has a son who will be 21 in November, and she mad him so miserable that he left home before high school graduation. Two stepsons ahead of him were big problems also, and her anger is a huge problem. The grandson who left did finish high school, thankfully. He is not in contact with his Mom because all she wants is to run his life and tell him what to do. He has made some bad choices because of all the anger, but we are here for him. Right now, she is angry at us because we keep in contact with him. We had him here at our home more than a third of his life, and we love him. Our daughter and her husband have a six year old and we hope things are better with him. She has not allowed the little guy to see his brother for over a year. We visited the grandson at Christmas and took him his gifts. He was here in August when he came to visit other family also, and I asked them to stay for a meal. This really angers our daughter, but I will not throw my grandson away like a piece of garbage. Daughter is also angry because we are not giving her money, clothes, etc. Her Dad built her new cabinets for her kitchen last year and she only paid us about half of what the materials were. We took her in when she needed us before the first child was born, gave her our home to stay in, bought the crib, etc, had the child with us so much. She is angry with us because she thinks I let her brother borrow some money. A small amount at that. She has borrowed from family members and not paid back, by the way. She has a Mennonite friend who babysits for her at times; the lady does it for extra money. Our daughter always promises her that she will take her places for babysitting, then doesn't follow through. This lady is the best friend my daughter could ever have, and she takes advantage of her!! Now she is losing her slowly, because she just takes and takes. Our daughter is 42, going to college now, and still angry at the world and me. I am going my own way, now, and not telling her anything personal. We are going to visit the grandson on Sunday, the first time we have been there since Christmas. I can't even tell her because she will be angry, so we will just let it go. He needs us, too, and misses his family. Thanks for letting me vent.

[Soidhonia]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central. your daughter needs professional help to move on with her life. Your daughters problems could be physical based as well so a physical may be in order as well. It is good to have you here at Psych central, there are many caring and compassionate people here at Psych Central. Take care and best wishes. Soidhonia