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Jul 09, 2017 at 06:19 AM
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So this morning my ex asked me thru text where i was last night. We live in same apartment complex not same apartmemt. He said he didnt see my car and was asking where i stayed. I did come home just not til after him i sppose but why would he ask when hes the one who left me?? We have been broken up for a month and hes also asked me questions that pretty much sum up him stalking my facebook. I just dont understand why hes so concerned with my actions when he is the one who left me?
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Jul 09, 2017 at 06:28 AM
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I don't know to be honest. There could be many reasons. I could only but speculate so it's really hard to say. What does he get out of stalking your Facebook? Seems strange.
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Jul 09, 2017 at 06:34 AM
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In each circumstance, it like hes questioning what i am doing as if there is some new guy im seeing? Which is completely not true. But even if i had move on, he left me so i dont understand why he would question me at all
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Jul 09, 2017 at 07:52 AM
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He may have in the back if his mind that he can go back to you whenever he wants to. So in a sense he could still see you as "his". In that case he could feel threatened by you seeing other guys, and thus feel a need to keep tabs on you.
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Jul 09, 2017 at 09:05 AM
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I agree with Bill. It's either that or he has some lingering feelings for you and hasn't fully cut the cord.
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Jul 09, 2017 at 09:55 AM
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Ex partners often feel miserable at the idea their significant other can get on with-out them. I am guilty of this to a degree myself. Though I left because my spouse was already having a life that didn't include me it still bothered me that he was doing well once I was out of the picture. For me it only confirmed my suspicion that He felt I wasn't needed and I was very troubled by this. I had hoped there would be a period where he would not do so well. It would have made me feel vindicated. Instead I felt like such a loser. Now, I stopped short of the 'stalking' things like Facebook and trying to find out what he was up to. Still, his getting on quite happily without me was difficult.
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Jul 09, 2017 at 10:07 AM
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Because often people break up with someone because they believe things will be better, less complicated, more available, If they are single. Often these plans don't play out straight away and they get paranoid, envious or suspicious that the person they dumped is in fact having a better time of it than they are.
Some people like to think they can go back if things don't work out. Obviously if the dumpee then goes out and gets a life the dumper then gets insecure, even annoyed that they might lose control over their ex. Some people are just plain weird and even if they don't want you, they don't want anyone else having you either. Mostly it about control. And not being able to understand that by leaving they have no fking say over your life anymore. I see this b.s all the time with people who cheat on their spouse setting up with a new partner but refuse to divorce. There are several reasons, none of them means he,actually has to give a damn though I am afraid. All the best on shaking this one loose. __________________ I Don't Care What You Think Of Me...I Don't Think Of You At All.CoCo Chanel. |
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Jul 12, 2017 at 08:14 AM
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Maybe he regrets because of the breakup. I think you need to talk about this with him, not here
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