[Owllove03]

Hello all this is my first post. So my situation is very confusing. Me and my ex were together 7 years. He broke up with me saying he needed space. While im devastated i agreed. However its been a little over a month. I have implemented no contact. And for the last few weeks he has cobtacted me everyday. Usually no substance like asking questions similar to if i saw something online, asks what ive been up to. When he contacts me i will answer. Hes asked me to still go places with him. He has said he misses me but i dont understand, if you still miss and love me why would you leave, and why not just come back? I have recently put it politely to him that he needs to decide if we are going to fix things or im going to have to cut him out of my life completely, because i havent been able to move on with my life. Im giving him time to really consider this decision. He is still contacting me. Is he considering getting back together or do you think hes playing games?

[Owllove03]

Hes all i think about. I truly love him. Since our breakup he still calls, texts me. Hes daid he misses me. Hes invited me places still. What can i do to make him want me back. I cant deal with not being with him everyday?

[Erebos]

Thing is, he isn't giving you a chance to grieve, and heal because he is stringing you along.
I see this all the time. 7 - 9 years into a relationship one of the party panics, decides maybe they have made the wrong choice. Thinks maybe the grass is greener elsewhere, so they break up.
Only they don't want to risk finding out they made a huge mistake so they keep the ex on the backburner.
Saying all the things they know they want to hear,
'Your like my best friend,' ' we are so much Alike' and let's not forget the infamous...'its not you, it's me, I need to get my head straight, I want to be a better person cos you deserve so much more..' B*LLSH*T.

Usually what happens, is they realise it's not all that, and they panic their ex will move on. So start paying extra attention to what they are up too.

Still I could be wrong and he could have a totally legitimate reason for breaking your heart then stringing you along.
All the best , and do take care of yourself first and foremost.

[Sunflower123]

I agree with Erebos. What he's doing is cruel. I also agree you need to take care of you first. I'm glad you told him to make a decision. Best wishes.

[Bill3]

I agree with the others. How much time did you give him?

[NeedHaldol]

Total Ultimatum.

Yes or cut off completely.

[Owllove03]

I told hime to take some real time to thonk about it. Didnt really give a limit but he made it apparent that he would more than likely decide this week. I gave myself in my head a 3 month period id be willing to wait for him to get his head out of his butt, and we are close to two months now.

[Sunflower123]

I wish you good luck. I hope this works out to your satisfaction.