So today in college, I got my math class done and ended in a near perfect grade. After finishing my final test and getting a perfect 100 on it, I asked a girl in my class for her number. She said no because she doesn't feel feel comfortable giving her number to guys she hardly ever knows.

Now normally, I would be hurt by such rejection, but instead, I made some snarky comments about how I'm too busy with my new job and the business that I'm starting anyways so I don't care either way if she accepts me or not while thinking that I'm better than her because I got a perfect score on the final and finished the class with an A and she barely passed the class with a C. I made a comment on how I will be a millionaire before I'm 30 and it's her loss if she doesn't want me.

That's how I have been feeling lately. I've been arrogant and obsessed with money. Things have been going so well for me lately that I have grown to consider myself better than most people instead of worse. I look down upon people who dare reject me with pity, for they don't have a quality eye ftor brilliance when they see it.

I don't feel upset by being rejected; I am glad. I am glad that I don't have to be tied down by my feelings of loneliness and desperation for a woman in my life anymore. I need nobody and nobody can hurt me ever again. This feeling is euphoric to say the least.

How glorious.

[Crazy Hitch]

Maybe be a bit careful with this tactic .... you come across as exceptionally arrogant, and word will get around and pretty soon no one will be giving you their number

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm glad you don't feel rejected anymore; however, be careful, since you may look arrogant to the people you talk to, and in that case you'll probably have to cope with loneliness for a long time..

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

So today in college, I got my math class done and ended in a near perfect grade. After finishing my final test and getting a perfect 100 on it, I asked a girl in my class for her number. She said no because she doesn't feel feel comfortable giving her number to guys she hardly ever knows.

Now normally, I would be hurt by such rejection, but instead, I made some snarky comments about how I'm too busy with my new job and the business that I'm starting anyways so I don't care either way if she accepts me or not while thinking that I'm better than her because I got a perfect score on the final and finished the class with an A and she barely passed the class with a C. I made a comment on how I will be a millionaire before I'm 30 and it's her loss if she doesn't want me.

I think it is great that you tried. Perhaps this is just really her policy with most guys and she is being careful. You can't really know unless you also got a gut feeling she did not like you (by watching her facial expression) as well. I think it's great progress that you feel like it is her loss if she doesn't want you; however, the comment that I will be a millionaire before I'm 30 would strike me as odd. I would immediately think that the odds of this happening to anyone are low. Though this encounter is not the place (perhaps on a date?) for it--I would be much more impressed hearing about the process/steps someone is using/actually doing to work toward financial
independence. Also, while it is OK to think it's her loss if she doesn't want you--it is just one of those things that you don't say it out loud. But live and learn. Keep trying. I am glad you are feeling better about yourself!

[Sassandclass]

I don't mean this in a disrespectful way... but you may want to check your perceptions of people and realize that most things aren't personal attacks on you.

I'm a woman who lives in a capital city and I'm inundated with continuous warnings about how dangerous it is to give out your contact information. It's a constant stream of "be careful!" "Date rape is real" "don't give your info to people you don't really know!" "They may kill you and cut you up into little pieces" etc, etc, etc. In fact, my own father, and my many brothers have filled my head with warnings as well. Also, my guy friends have warned me in the past, to be careful, to be watchful, to be vigilant.

So, if a guy I didn't know well asked for my number (and I happened to be single) I would politely decline. Not to be mean, but to be safe. I wouldn't think badly of that guy though.
Although if he said to me what you said to her....
Yup! Then I would be offended. You basically reacted to her like she is a bag of dirt who you would stoop to date if she were lucky! No woman is going to appreciate that. Would you appreciate it if a woman said those things to you?

I'm happy that you are coping with rejection better than in the past. I just don't think that coping should also mean the destruction of other people's self esteem.

I think being arrogant is just a coping mechanism for you to be able to deal with rejection, and not feel the embarrassment/shame that often comes with it. She was probably able to see right through it, just as we here have. Be careful using this tactic because you may end up very much alone with it.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

I think being arrogant is just a coping mechanism for you to be able to deal with rejection, and not feel the embarrassment/shame that often comes with it. She was probably able to see right through it, just as we here have. Be careful using this tactic because you may end up very much alone with it.

I agree with scaredandconfused.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

So today in college, I got my math class done and ended in a near perfect grade. After finishing my final test and getting a perfect 100 on it, I asked a girl in my class for her number. She said no because she doesn't feel feel comfortable giving her number to guys she hardly ever knows.

Now normally, I would be hurt by such rejection, but instead, I made some snarky comments about how I'm too busy with my new job and the business that I'm starting anyways so I don't care either way if she accepts me or not while thinking that I'm better than her because I got a perfect score on the final and finished the class with an A and she barely passed the class with a C. I made a comment on how I will be a millionaire before I'm 30 and it's her loss if she doesn't want me.

That's how I have been feeling lately. I've been arrogant and obsessed with money. Things have been going so well for me lately that I have grown to consider myself better than most people instead of worse. I look down upon people who dare reject me with pity, for they don't have a quality eye ftor brilliance when they see it.

I don't feel upset by being rejected; I am glad. I am glad that I don't have to be tied down by my feelings of loneliness and desperation for a woman in my life anymore. I need nobody and nobody can hurt me ever again. This feeling is euphoric to say the least.

How glorious.

Well I am glad rejections no longer bother you but at the same time, she probably doesn't know you well enough to give you her number. I wouldn't want to give anyone I barely know my number too. And I know it may sound harsh, but you came off as stuck up and arrogant so you should be a bit more careful about how you word things since that could drive people away.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I agree with scaredandconfused.

I agree too.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

I think being arrogant is just a coping mechanism for you to be able to deal with rejection, and not feel the embarrassment/shame that often comes with it. She was probably able to see right through it, just as we here have. Be careful using this tactic because you may end up very much alone with it.

I agree.

Originally Posted by Sassandclass

I'm a woman who lives in a capital city and I'm inundated with continuous warnings about how dangerous it is to give out your contact information. It's a constant stream of "be careful!" "Date rape is real" "don't give your info to people you don't really know!" "They may kill you and cut you up into little pieces" etc, etc, etc. In fact, my own father, and my many brothers have filled my head with warnings as well. Also, my guy friends have warned me in the past, to be careful, to be watchful, to be vigilant.

Honestly, if I wanted somebody's number so badly, I could simply take it. I am a hacker after all and hacking people's Facebook or finding their phone number through public records, social engineering, or phone spoofing is child's play.

I genuinely don't care enough about other people at this point to go through that much trouble though. Hacking requires work and I have always been chronically lazy when it comes to doing any type of work that doesn't net me any money. I mean, I can't even motivate myself to cook and clean because that stuff isn't profitable for me haha

So yeah, include money and I'm a completely different person.

I may be alone now, but just wait until I get in shape and end up making more money in a month than some do in a year once my business takes off. I have a job now so I will have plenty of money to save and reinvest. I WILL be a millionaire by the time I'm 30 even if I have to do some grey hat or even barely legal black hat means to get what I want.

When I have money and abs and a nice car combined with my intelligence, any woman who would reject that would be the fool and I don't associate with fools

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Well I am glad rejections no longer bother you but at the same time, she probably doesn't know you well enough to give you her number. I wouldn't want to give anyone I barely know my number too. And I know it may sound harsh, but you came off as stuck up and arrogant so you should be a bit more careful about how you word things since that could drive people away.

That's what most women like, is it not?

The guy who is a complete prick to people?

Most women that I've dealt with don't give a damn about the nice guy, yet they will fall for the dude who is a complete arrogant stuck up prick.

I used to be the nice guy who would be friendly to women, never talk about sex or anything, be respectful to them, and open doors and help them and what not and that is probably why I couldn't get laid and lost my virginity to a prostitute.

Never again. I embrace my masculinity. If people have a problem with it than it's on them.

Anyways, I have money to make so laters people

[Trippin2.0]

Masculinity is not synonymous with being assholian.

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

Masculinity is not synonymous with being assholian.

Not that it matters.

I've long since accepted the fact that I have nothing to offer people. Most people want somebody that they can connect with. I can't provide that need to people because I have low emotional intelligence and a low capacity for empathy. I can't be what a regular person wants in a person.

So if being "assholian" as you so eloquently put it makes me feel better about myself, I will be the king of assholes.

At least then, people might acknowledge me for once.

[bearguardian]

Why even seek acknowledgment? I find that a very depressive way to approach reality. And it is actually the majority of people that lack emotional intelligence. You just may be immature and pissed off.
I dont mean to be offensive. I dont know you really. Just a speculation really...

Originally Posted by bearguardian

Why even seek acknowledgment? I find that a very depressive way to approach reality. And it is actually the majority of people that lack emotional intelligence. You just may be immature and pissed off.
I dont mean to be offensive. I dont know you really. Just a speculation really...

IDK man.. maybe I'm fed up? I've been alone for so long that I want people to acknowledge me. I've lived a lifestyle similar to that of a cyberpunk character most of my life. I wasted most of my 20s away living in isolation with only my tech and inner darkness to guide me.

I crave connections with people but IDK how to connect with people and it hurts. I never kissed a girl let alone connected with one. I crave things that I never had.

I would pay any price to rid myself of this pain; even if I must sacrifice my humanity or even my life.

[Sassandclass]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

Honestly, if I wanted somebody's number so badly, I could simply take it. I am a hacker after all and hacking people's Facebook or finding their phone number through public records, social engineering, or phone spoofing is child's play.

I genuinely don't care enough about other people at this point to go through that much trouble though. Hacking requires work and I have always been chronically lazy when it comes to doing any type of work that doesn't net me any money. I mean, I can't even motivate myself to cook and clean because that stuff isn't profitable for me haha

So yeah, include money and I'm a completely different person.

I'm sorry you're feeling that you don't care about people

Originally Posted by Sassandclass

I'm sorry you're feeling that you don't care about people

I guess that I need to accept that I am a lost soul. I have turned into an empty shell of a person that only cares about self interest. I'm so far gone that no person has the capacity to save me.

I don't want to be like this but what choice do I have? I'm only happy when I have money or appear smarter or better than other people. Otherwise, I hate life.

I might just give up on this forum or listening to the advice that I get here because I'm not willing to get over my own greed and selfishness. Besides, the time that I spend here could better be used on actual self improvement or learning new skills.

[TheDragon]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

I guess that I need to accept that I am a lost soul. I have turned into an empty shell of a person that only cares about self interest. I'm so far gone that no person has the capacity to save me.

I don't want to be like this but what choice do I have? I'm only happy when I have money or appear smarter or better than other people. Otherwise, I hate life.

I might just give up on this forum or listening to the advice that I get here because I'm not willing to get over my own greed and selfishness. Besides, the time that I spend here could better be used on actual self improvement or learning new skills.

Your time here could be well spent if you considered people's inputs instead of just deflecting criticism. You constantly tell us one thing, then another, we point it out and give you honest feedback (example would be that you say you don't care and it's obvious you do and we try to help you acknowledge that) and you have a hard time accepting it.

It's not a matter of whether you need to get over your presumed greed or selfishness either; Many people here acknowledge the importance of self care and understand when attempting to make a better life, it's important to put one's needs first.

It's the fact that you try to put on this dark persona with a strong front, but then say things that are incredibly contradictory to the persona you put up. If you truly were no longer bothered by rejection, then you would have never put this thread up in the first place, but it's obvious to those of us who've read your thread you go through a cycle of wanting to be accepted, not finding that acceptance and validation, becoming hurt and putting up your strong dark persona as a reactive self defense mechanism, realizing you're still lonely and hurt as much as you try to convince yourself you're not, then back to the beginning of the cycle.

You keep saying you don't have a choice, yet you also refuse to acknowledge input when others point out that if you were to spend more time on self improvement to build on self confidence instead of trying to put up a false persona.

At the end of the day, it seems you're trying to convince everyone that you're a dark lost soul who's beyond help and so forth, but it seems that more than anything you're trying to convince yourself of it and failing to, otherwise you wouldn't have visited the same subject so often. And if you keep trying to convince yourself that you're dark and lost and whatnot, you're not going to be genuinely working on self-improvement.

I am 29 and I don't even have a job, I have either quit or been given the boot. I have been called arrogant since my late teens. Unlike you I used to say I would be dead before 30. That is strange I know but lord was I screwed up. I had never come across Freud's death instinct theory before.

[Sassandclass]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

I guess that I need to accept that I am a lost soul. I have turned into an empty shell of a person that only cares about self interest. I'm so far gone that no person has the capacity to save me.

I don't want to be like this but what choice do I have? I'm only happy when I have money or appear smarter or better than other people. Otherwise, I hate life.

I might just give up on this forum or listening to the advice that I get here because I'm not willing to get over my own greed and selfishness. Besides, the time that I spend here could better be used on actual self improvement or learning new skills.

No one is ever ever a lost soul 🦋
What kind of self improvement ideas are you thinking of?

Originally Posted by TheDragon

It's the fact that you try to put on this dark persona with a strong front, but then say things that are incredibly contradictory to the persona you put up. If you truly were no longer bothered by rejection, then you would have never put this thread up in the first place, but it's obvious to those of us who've read your thread you go through a cycle of wanting to be accepted, not finding that acceptance and validation, becoming hurt and putting up your strong dark persona as a reactive self defense mechanism, realizing you're still lonely and hurt as much as you try to convince yourself you're not, then back to the beginning of the cycle.

You keep saying you don't have a choice, yet you also refuse to acknowledge input when others point out that if you were to spend more time on self improvement to build on self confidence instead of trying to put up a false persona.

At the end of the day, it seems you're trying to convince everyone that you're a dark lost soul who's beyond help and so forth, but it seems that more than anything you're trying to convince yourself of it and failing to, otherwise you wouldn't have visited the same subject so often. And if you keep trying to convince yourself that you're dark and lost and whatnot, you're not going to be genuinely working on self-improvement.

Ok I do admit that I was having a depression episode when I made some of the posts in this thread and as such, wasn't being the most logical person.

With that being said, I am spending time on what I consider self improvement. I am setting aside time during the day when I'm not busy with school or work or whatever listening to podcasts, TedTalks, and other sources of knowledge and information by successful entrepreneurs, life coaches, people who have what I want out of life, and other people that I actually respect enough to humble myself and listen to. I am also studying topics such as web marketing, SEO, business tactics, psychological influencing, product design, and other similar subjects to prepare myself for my new business that I plan on starting when I get my sizable sum of money in Sept. I am also writing a business plan and brushing up on my web design skills and math so I can be an expert in what I do.

As I have hinted in the past, I prioritize financial success and material things over emotional connections with people or friendships. I have been like this for about 3-4 years now. I wasted so much of my life away hidden away in my room studying various methods of making money online. I tried to even start a business at one point, but failed due to my recklessness; a flaw that I no longer have. I have invested so much time and money into my ideas at the expense of friendships, love, parties, or other things that most normal 20 somethings do at some point. I have way too much time, money, and energy invested into this part of me to change at this point.

You might think that I could do all of this without my dark side; that financial success isn't synonymous with ruthlessness. While that may be true to some extent, doing so is significantly more difficult, takes longer, and generally has a lower probability of success.

A part of my motivation as to why I am choosing this path in life is so I can eventually get to a point to where I can live my life in relative peace doing things that I want to do like gaming, being a geek, and just generally living the childhood that I never had a chance to live while my passive income from my web sites, sales, and other things provide me with everything that I could possibly want while working maybe 10-20 hours a week at most; something that is entirely common for those who are successful with internet marketing once they do the work to get setup.

While it hurts a great deal to have nobody in my life right now, I need to man up and realize that the path that I have chosen is a lonely one. To succeed in one thing often requires a sacrifice in another. I am going to have to find a way to cope with loneliness going forward if I am to be able to finally live the lifestyle that I so badly desire.

[TheDragon]

Being an entrepreneur and/or wealthy does not have to be a lonely one. If anything, most entrepeneurs and people who are independently wealthy tend to be very social.

And I don't say this to discourage you but if you're interested in opening a business with the intention of stepping away from it, you'll fail. The few who entrepteneurs and business owners who are able to step awayfrom their business often do so unwillingly, and are only able to do that after years of shear determination, hard work, and a bit of luck that gets their business running so successfully they can be hands off.

While sacrifices often have to be made to reach that point, few sacrifice all of their social lives. Many entrepreneurs only get as far as they do with the support of loved ones.

Originally Posted by TheDragon

Being an entrepreneur and/or wealthy does not have to be a lonely one. If anything, most entrepeneurs and people who are independently wealthy tend to be very social.

And I don't say this to discourage you but if you're interested in opening a business with the intention of stepping away from it, you'll fail. The few who entrepteneurs and business owners who are able to step awayfrom their business often do so unwillingly, and are only able to do that after years of shear determination, hard work, and a bit of luck that gets their business running so successfully they can be hands off.

While sacrifices often have to be made to reach that point, few sacrifice all of their social lives. Many entrepreneurs only get as far as they do with the support of loved ones.

I never said that I intend on stepping away from a business. I do, however, plan on delving into the realm of internet marketing and online selling which offer the potential for much of the income to be passive after you do the initial work of building the websites. Building websites like that is a great deal of work and once you succeed and start generating passive income, you do have to continue to maintain them and keep learning and improving in order to remain competitive.

Once I'm at the point to where a lot of my income is passive, I plan on working less; not never. I know that no matter what I do, I will need to work for it; I just would much rather do this than work a regular job that I would be miserable at while sacrificing time that could be better spent on things that I enjoy.