Trust yourself, honor and respect your feelings

This is a huge lesson I learned / am learning. Especially in dating and my relationships with other people. Trust yourself, honor and respect your feelings. Spend your time around people who make you feel good. People who are supportive. People you don't feel like you have to lie to or pretend to be someone else around.

It just feels amazing to know and understand this. I want to soak in it everyday.

Your feelings matter. Like, a lot. Like, the most, when it comes to if you're dating someone who makes you feel badly. Your feelings really matter, in general. I know this intellectually, but I'm making it my mission to really believe it and know it.

Also if something doesn't feel right, it's not. In my last dating situation, I was confused by this because of these thoughts "but he seems like / is a good person. But I like him.". Someone can be these things and also be completely wrong for you, and be an asshole at the same time. trust your gut.

Spend time around people who are supportive of you and make you feel good. If you're enchanted by a jerk, ask yourself why. Are they confident? Are you bored in your life? Why do they seem exciting to you? Are they giving you crumbs? Really alluring crumbs? How can you feel good about yourself (and confident) so that you don't need that person or their crumbs? What have you always wanted to do? Set out to do it. If you're scared, like me, make it a goal to face your fears. I am reading The Art of Fear by Kristen Ulmer. It's good stuff.

You make some very good points. I'll check that book out. Thanks for sharing. Best wishes. I stayed in a marriage for way too long when my instincts and guts were screaming at me.