[TishaBuv]

As many of you know, my family is whack.

My aunt and her daughter (my 1st cousin) are in town. Visiting each other is rare. My cousin has two kids and I only saw the oldest once when he was a baby. They are 7 and 5 now.

Long story short, they are acting like they always do, being totally exclusive and (for lack of a better word) douchy.

They are here for a week, and did not ask us to join them for any of the tourist things they are doing-- even after I gave them free passes to them!

I even said 'we would have joined you'... dead silence.

They only wanted to come to my house tonight for dinner. I told them we had an important dinner meeting tonight, but they could come until then, or they could even stay with my son after we leave so her kids could see their cousin.

She huffily said 'oh no, we wouldn't do that!'

So, I read her off. I told her my feelings were hurt and I'd rather bring it up now while they are still in town, rather than be mad.

My aunt screamed at me 'Get off it!' Screaming and acting so nasty. WTF?

Who would act like that? She has absolutely zero empathy. Narcissist?

They did not call me back at all. Poof!

Eventually, I called her back several hours later. She acted like nothing happened, just like my mother does, all chipper.

I re invited them to come to my house today but leave when we have to leave.

She said she'd call me back today.

So, they'll probably visit for a few hours and I'll be polite. But I don't like them. I'll probably never even see them again.

Shytty fam!

[TishaBuv]

What really started me feeling bad towards my aunt was, she, my mom, and I were talking

Possible trigger:

about women in the fam getting raped/nearly getting raped. We have several stories to discuss. Then I told her for the first time what happened to me (date rape)

And my aunt simply changed the subject, ignoring what I said. Is that a normal way to react? What's up with that? I'm stymied.

[baboo5]

Ugh! I don't have any advice for you but I do feel sad for you.

Some of my family is the same way. They come to town and don't even contact me. Sometimes I hear through the grapevine they were here (small town). Very hurtful.

[TishaBuv]

Well, that's as good as my family gets. They came by and we visited for two hours. They just are what they are. What can I say?

I asked them 'what brings you to town?' I couldn't resist. They looked at me dumbstruck and said they had come to visit us. As they left, I asked them what they had planned for the rest of the week. My aunt said they would just be hanging around and I was welcome to see them again if I wanted. I said I would.

My cousin is a strange girl... she's 8 years younger than me, she was my maid of honor at my wedding, I have always been warm to her. Yet, not a word of any inclusion came from her mouth. She wouldn't have even given me a hug and a kiss hello, had I not kissed her.

Meh, cold fish. Funny, because my mom and us daughters are just the opposite.

[TishaBuv]

The fact that I asked my cousin to be my maid of honor is a reflection on me.

My best friend since we were two, hadn't seen me in years, having moved far away. We weren't even in touch anymore. When I sent her an engagement announcement, she sent back this long, nasty letter that she didn't care that I was engaged and that the announcement was just 'data' to her. This blindsided me. I had no idea why she would do this, had no falling out with her ever.

My other best friend since the 8th grade, my mother discouraged me from including in the wedding party. She was also banned from my Sweet 16, My best friend! Because she is ... well, she is a lot of things I can't even begin to go into... and my mother didn't want to include her, and I agreed at the time.

So my maid of honor and bridesmaids were my sisters and cousin. We had to pay for my family's clothes anyway, so my mother figured we'd put them in the peach dresses that would only be worn once.

[TishaBuv]

Looking back on it, who the hell was I trying to impress?

My mother and her brainwashing on how things should be...

I wanted a small wedding at our favorite restaurant with people we really cared about. But then it became the traditional wedding my mother told me weddings should be. I don't recall how that went down. I'm not blaming her.

I suppose my aunt and cousin would have flown down and come regardless. They are good family in the sense they will be there at big events. I do appreciate that. But it's an obligation.