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Aug 24, 2017 at 03:57 PM
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I've been married for 8 months second marriage for both of us. We are both in our early 50's and married in love. I love my husband. however, he is critical and demanding. I would talk to a family member for advice and now he accuses me of betraying him. He has named called me, insulted me, and asked me to leave. We have not been able to put this behind us. I refuse to be mistreated. He falsely accuses me and does not understand that I would have not gone to someone for help if he would have not been so critical . He now blames me, and says I hurt him. Our sex life and communication is terrible. We are both hurt and cannot seem to overcome this miscommunication. What do I do. I am looking for a therapist that can help us get back to our loving space.
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Aug 24, 2017 at 09:46 PM
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Will he go to Therapy ?
Has he changed his actions after getting married ? or is this something new? What good qualities does he have? Welcome to PC __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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Aug 25, 2017 at 10:17 AM
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Hello. Welcome to PC.
 Couples counseling sounds like a good idea. He is behaving in an obnoxious manner. I hope you can work this out in therapy or walk out with your head held high. You deserve better. 
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Aug 25, 2017 at 11:00 AM
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I agree with the others here. This does not sound good. Name calling and insults are not acceptable and are a form of verbal abuse. I am glad you know your limits, and I would definitely recommend a couples therapist, but he may not change his behavior. It's on HIM to make changes, and only in therapy will he see this. In the meantime, you can tell him whenever he acts like that that what he is saying to you is NOT OK, and that you will not accept that form of treatment. You can walk away and tell him you will talk to him when he can be respectful towards you. See what he does then.
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Aug 25, 2017 at 11:06 AM
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 Sorry to hear this. Can you two go to couple counselling?
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Aug 25, 2017 at 06:49 PM
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Aug 27, 2017 at 03:12 AM
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Was he critical & demanding BEFORE you got married? Was this red flags before the wedding that you just didn't pay attention to?
Wonder if his previous wife would tell you.....yea, that's what caused the first marriage to fail. Second marriages have baggage if the cause of the marriage failing was never resolved. Marriage counselling is about the only solution. If he is unwilling, I would write off the marriage & him as not being the kind of guy anyone should be married to. __________________  Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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