[babygirl96]

So I just found out that I have BPD and it explains everything that has gone on in my life and my emotions and things like that. However, since I my fiance found out about it he isn't very supportive of it. He has actually distanced himself from me and I do not really know to do about it. I know I have been distant off and on in the relationship due to my feelings and emotions changing. Does anyone have any advice on how to help our relationship and help him understand my BPD and work things out with us.
Thank you guys in advance,
Babygirl96

[Sunflower123]

I don't have any advice just wanted you to know I support you. I hope your fiancée will educate himself on the topic and you can resolve this. Good luck and best wishes.

[Erebos]

It may be hard for him to adjust as he realizes this is something that will always be there.
Sounds like you need to maybe find a mediator and have a good in depth talk.
Find out where you both stand.
All the best.

[Shazerac]

welcome to psych central

[babygirl96]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I don't have any advice just wanted you to know I support you. I hope your fiancée will educate himself on the topic and you can resolve this. Good luck and best wishes.

Thank you so much, he has read about it before but he does not seem to understand how things work and what to do and it is causing a lot of arguments between us and I truly believe he is growing to resent me.

[babygirl96]

Originally Posted by Erebos

It may be hard for him to adjust as he realizes this is something that will always be there.
Sounds like you need to maybe find a mediator and have a good in depth talk.
Find out where you both stand.
All the best.

We are looking into doing something like that and he knows a lot about this however it does not seem that he really tries to understand and make some changes in order to help me out. He has been yelling at me a lot more and we fight more than we ever have before and it is stressing me out and making me think he resents wanting to marry me.

[~Christina]

Do you have BP ( Bipolar) or BPD ( borderline personality disorder)

I was diagnosed late age 43 with bipolar, my husband could not understand what the hell was going on until I took him to one of my Therapy sessions and my therapist gave him the run down in guy talk what I was dealing with and have been since likely from age 6 on.

I hope your fiancée will educate himself and you can both come up with ways that will make your relationship more healthy.

Welcome to Pc

I am very sorry he is not supportive of your condition and is distancing himself. That must be very hard on you. I like the suggestion to invite him to one of your therapy appointments - he could learn a lot more about this that way.

Thing is, you are exactly the same person he agreed to marry, before he knew about this. Nothing has changed except a proper diagnosis. And now that you have a specific diagnosis, you can be treated properly for it with the right medications and probably will be better off. He needs to understand that nothing has changed between you or about you at all. He may just be scared of the unknown and what this means for him as well as for the relationship. (((Hugs)))) I hope things improve for you two.

[babygirl96]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Do you have BP ( Bipolar) or BPD ( borderline personality disorder)

I was diagnosed late age 43 with bipolar, my husband could not understand what the hell was going on until I took him to one of my Therapy sessions and my therapist gave him the run down in guy talk what I was dealing with and have been since likely from age 6 on.

I hope your fiancée will educate himself and you can both come up with ways that will make your relationship more healthy.

Welcome to Pc

I have borderline personality disorder. He may have to go to a therapy session with me and things like that to try to understand better. Thank you for the tip on that one. I am going to try that.