I was just wondering how you build a relationship? Do you think it's possible to build a relationship being like single but together? It's not quite an open relationship, just being emotionally and materially independent from the other, that is to be close physically, to have kids together, be attached but somehow a little bit withdrawn emotionally.. do you think it's a healthy relationship?
I was too attached to my boyfriend so he said I was affectively dependent... I worked on myself, but now I feel like I am too distant.. like I enjoy being with him.. but not like before.. I mean I think I am just attached but not in love anymore. I guess maybe it's just that time passed.. and it's more a matter of routine now, rather than of feelings.

[healingme4me]

Having some emotional detachment can be healthy, in the sense of not being enmeshed. Yet, having an emotional connection and bond aka intimacy is very important. Do you both take time to ensure that distancing isn't happening? Sounds like he might have pushed you away by calling you affectively dependent? Sounds like it was painful, hence a wall has formed?

[Sunflower123]

There are relationships of all types. Whatever works for someone else make not work for you. If you’re happy and your partner is happy, I say go for it. Having said that, explore your feelings carefully to be sure this is what you want and that you haven’t just fallen out of love. Best wishes.