Folks, am I over thinking this? Does my hurt and ire come about as a result of my bipolar? Do I have cause to feel hurt?

I sent my daughter yesterday morning a photo which she in turn posted to her Facebook with the heading, "I love the messages my mom sends me." I was overjoyed. What a feel good moment..

Then came a comment and my heart dropped. I was crestfallen. My daughter's stepmom posted, "poor man's pumpkins' (see the photo).

This hurt me deeply as they are my stand in pumpkins. How incredibly ignorant of her.

Hm. Knowing absolutely nothing about that person, I would say it sounds objectively rude. Is there any other possible, non-insulting meaning behind this she could have had? Ultimately though, your hurt is valid. It sounds very mean of her. What a thing to say of someone!

[Spangle]

Hmmm, well, I’d have felt hurt too. However, I love your decorated satsumers & now feel inspired to do some myself. Just stay with the good feeling you got from your daughter & ignore your daughters stepmum. She’s clearly a *****y woman. Maybe she was jealous that your daughter posted you on her FB wall.

[MickeyCheeky]

It's understandable you'd feel hurt. However, your daughter really liked them and that's what matters in the end. Try to ignore the comments of her stepmom..

[eclairparty98]

You're not overthinking a thing!! This is one of the many, many, many reasons I often steer clear of social media due to people feeling obliged to posting something without thinking first, particularly when it has nothing to do with them. Your daughter was celebrating these friendly, adorable exchanges between you and herself and her stepmom made a comment.

I'm not sure what your relationship is like with your daughters stepmom but I would suggest you not give this any thought at all as difficult as it can often be to ignore things like this.

It's a subtle, innocent, beautiful photo and she unfortunately doesn't seem to appreciate it. What's important is that your daughter loved it

[Shazerac]

I have a sister in law who is a total beotch and says things like that on my posts. Some people are just mean. Your daughter loved it. That's what's important.

[hvert]

Your pumpkins are very cute! Hopefully the stepmom didn't mean to be rude, but I'd be offended by that comment as well.

[~Christina]

I think it is adorable !

You daughter liked it that is what matters !!! Screw what the idiot said !

[divine1966]

Do you know this woman well? Is she a meany or is she trying to be funny? I call some of our ethnic foods "poor people food". It's just a joke. But you know her better. She is likely a mean person. Likely you don't have to see her much. I hope. She sounds obnoxious. Poor people pumpkins? Idiotic

I and my daughter exchange silly pics all the time. But we send to each other directly. No one can comment. No ones business what we send each other. FB is a source of nonsense.

[spondiferous]

She was probably just saying it to be funny. Lots of people say stuff like that because they think they're being funny. (Of course I don't know here and it's entirely possible there's something else behind it.) I personally love your pumpkins and i'm considering decorating both bags I got last night in a similar way. Maybe I will post a picture here.

[unaluna]

I think its just an expression, like when you have a bumper sticker that says, "my other car is a porsche".

Plus, i personally think an orange is a smart womans pumpkin. Peel and eat!

Plus, omg, so cute!

[Sunflower123]

Cute picture. You hit the nail on the head with the stepmom’s comment...ignorant.

At best she was trying to be funny, at worst possibly scoring a point.

If she is the wife of your ex who rented the ski chalet and is very well off then that would definitely make me suspect the latter.

I am more and more eschewing social media, people post the most inane stuff just to say something. Maybe thank your daughter but ask if she will keep your mesaages private in future as you meant them especially for her?

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

At best she was trying to be funny, at worst possibly scoring a point.

If she is the wife of your ex who rented the ski chalet and is very well off then that would definitely make me suspect the latter.

I am more and more eschewing social media, people post the most inane stuff just to say something. Maybe thank your daughter but ask if she will keep your mesaages private in future as you meant them especially for her?

I don't think she'd be called a stepmom if she is the wife of the ski chalet guy, he isn't the kids father. I am confused now. I think they have a father, a different guy, it's probably his wife

She is of no importance regardless whose wife she is. When kids are grown there usually is a limited interaction with stepparents of ones kids).

My daughters stepmom is a lovely woman and we are on good terms but at this point I only interact with her at major events that pertain to my daughter like graduations or wedding. And she is the mother of my daughters siblings! So she is of importance in that sense but still I have zero interactions with her outside of big events.

Ah ok. No it's of no importance who the stepmom is, other than Justafriend posted about how she feels her ex uses his wealth to gain favour with her kids, so in that case the 'poor' comment about the pumpkin made me wonder if it was linked.

Families can be complicated anyhow.

Originally Posted by divine1966

I don't think she'd be called a stepmom if she is the wife of the ski chalet guy, he isn't the kids father. I am confused now. I think they have a father, a different guy, it's probably his wife

She is of no importance regardless whose wife she is. When kids are grown there usually is a limited interaction with stepparents of ones kids).

My daughters stepmom is a lovely woman and we are on good terms but at this point I only interact with her at major events that pertain to my daughter like graduations or wedding. And she is the mother of my daughters siblings! So she is of importance in that sense but still I have zero interactions with her outside of big events.

Yes, I should offer up an explanation of the dynamics...

They have their biological father with whom they are very close. Stepmom 'one' would be his second wife. She is a lovely lady and I actually have a close enough relationship with them that I have even babysat their children for them. She would never dream of doing anything hurtful or crass.

Then they have their stepfather, my second husband, with whom they lived for 16 years. To my great despair they maintain a very close relationship with this man too. I don't understand why considering all the things he obviously and quite publicly did to me. Stepmom 'two' would be his girlfriend. She is a very snide woman who is quite full of herself. I understand from others she bears a great deal of the narcissistic traits of the step father. This is not the first occasion that she has rubbed the fact in my face that she both is in my children's lives and that her life, she assumes, is better than my life. La-tee-da about explains her personality. No I don't follow her, but I do put up with seeing her comments on my children's posts as though it is she who has ownership over them. Grrrrrr. It's rather like she is saying, "Look at me! Aren't I the best stand in mom ever!"

Now, back to this particular incident......

I am quite happy to let you all know that I had some vindication! Her comment has since disappeared. But, there are two comments that remain that rather harshly criticized her (individuals I do not know but am thankful to).

[Shazerac]

Hee hee. Love it when someone gets slammed for making a mean post and they remove it. That's just me. I can be a bit vindictive at times.

Yeah, it looks like she showed herself up here, and by the sounds of it she did intend to be mean so she got her just deserts.

[divine1966]

That's great that her posts are deleted

thank you everyone. It is nice those occasions when wrongs have been resolved.