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Nov 05, 2017 at 06:10 PM
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I have quite a difficult time maintaining friendships and relationships, mostly because I have a really hard time letting people in. I'm great talking to other people about themselves, or their issues, but when it comes down to sharing about myself, I have a very difficult time with it. People get impatient with me, or think I'm being fake, since they know I'm obviously concealing things. It tends to kill things before they even start.
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Nov 07, 2017 at 12:13 AM
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I had a lot of issues fitting in for a good part of my life. Luckily, over time after consistently working on myself, I've figured it out. You are definitely making a good step by discussing this here.
The thing I've noticed is trusting yourself in social situations. Trust that you have worth and that you don't need to change yourself to fit in. Know that you are special for being you. Accept that you have flaws, but so does everyone else. Don't over exert yourself with your shortcomings in mind and don't hold another individuals flaws against them. Don't change who you are for someone else. Be real, have fun, be supportive; things that friends do. I hope this helps. |
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Nov 07, 2017 at 12:41 AM
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I have a tough time as well. I haven't figured out exactly what it is. Some people say I build up walls, others say I push away (I can be blunt or whatever), and I feel that I'm not very good mixing in with other people. I recognize that I don't fit in well. I'm still working on it. I have learned, however, to be pretty okay with being by myself. I look forward to it, and for the most part, it doesn't defeat me.
So, as I continue to learn to gain more footing in the social arena, I guess I will learn to be satisfied being with myself. |
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Nov 07, 2017 at 04:27 AM
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Find someone who´s very self centered and isn´t bothered by you not talking about yourself.
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Nov 07, 2017 at 05:55 AM
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Nov 07, 2017 at 12:06 PM
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Nov 07, 2017 at 12:25 PM
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It's already a good thing that you can talk to others about them. I think a good dose of practice might help, and I think you can find many articles on the Internet that deal with this kind of situation. Probably many books as well.
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