[LonelyLife95]

He's 24 and I'm 21. When we were together or talked he always brought up our cute jokes/memories. He's never cheated or wanted to which is new for him. His mom said hes treated our relationship different than his previous. And that I'm the best girl he's ever had, I'm on the ball with my life and he loves that he doesn't feel like he's doing all the leg work financially. He would call me after work & we would stay on until the next morning. We spent our weekends together still having fun with eachother. He would buy me cute gifts occassionally, spoil me, or fix something for me. I would help him with his laundry or cleaning, make him a special breakfast, and hang out with his best friend (who is married with a kid, he's wants the life he has he said) with him if he wanted and just he had a good time with me always he said. He always had me in mind as far as plans and what not. Saturday he even fixed my sink, surprised me at work on Friday & stayed until close (an hour and a half).

But He broke it off that Sat Bc he apparently "doesnt care for us as a couple" I don't believe it. He loves me but isnt "in-love", but also said that im the type of girl hed want to be with?! Confusing. He hesitated the whole way out the door that night (claiming it was hard to say bye to one of my dogs which wasn't even his favorite one).

After that he texted me and kept in contact. I called him Monday asking to get "closure" but really wanted to ask him 2 questions and maybe change his mind- how everything can go from awesome to bad in a flash. We were on the phone for a long time like normal then he had to get off to get ready for bed but said he would call me back. Something happened with his phone so he didn't get to but in the morning (yesterday) he apologized and said he was getting a new phone that day. He even double texted a couple of times and got kind of upset when I didn't reply back fast enough (hense the double text). He called me that night after work to finish our convo and I said I didn't have another question, he saw my post on FB about a friend visiting me at work and got upset that I was moving on after a few days (which I'm not at all), he said we shouldnt be friends anymore because it would hurt him too much to see me move on. I said if it hurts you that much then why did you break it off? He didn't answer. We stayed on the phone for awhile and it went to resync so he called me via FB and we stayed on that for awhile, I vented about how upset and angry I was. He said the more you try to understand it the less you will. I tried to get off the phone 3 times and he was hesitant the whole time because this would be the last time we would talk to each other (I don't want it to be!!). He deleted me off Facebook but kept my grandfather as his friend when they barely know each other. But he is still my friend on snapchat which he looks at daily. Clearly A big part of him doesn't want to let go and neither do I so why?!

Hunch- AS WE ALL HAVE OUR FLAWS: We would have one minor disagreement a week, which to me is pretty good. He wouldnt drop it until he won tho it seemed (hes competitive). A few times he blew it up more than it needed to be. And he broke up with me a couple of times (2 times) because we couldn't reach a solution (I believe because he is known to be selfish about things but I loved him no matter what). But we would be back together by the next day. The longest break up was three days. I always go to him first, which I don't mind but I don't want it to make me look desperate.

I know our relationship made him happier than his single life. He admits to loving to spend time with me and that I'm the girl he would love to be with. He says he loves me and shows me all the time. He knows I want to move back home, and at one point was talking about moving in together. The 2 hour drive is nothing for us we didn't mind it.

Will he come back? Could it be that hes scared that he found "the one"?

[Crazy Hitch]

Some people may have a phobia of long term commitment, but not always. Is he a bit of a "free spirit"?

It's hard to say if he'll come back or not.

Have you ever had a discussion with him about long term commitment?

[LonelyLife95]

Yes and he said he wanted to settle down. He wishes he had his best friends life who is married and has a child and is happy

[Candigirl]

He’s not coming back. Sounds like the typical male fear of seeing a girl cry.
He turns it around on you (you didn’t text fast enough, etc.) so he doesn’t have to be the bad guy.
If you have to ask so many conflicting questions he’s not ready or doesn’t know how to tell you you’re not “the one” for him.
Move on to someone who is as committed as you are.
Just my opinion.

It is very possible that he is not in love and speaks the truth. He contradicts himself by not being able to let go, however. If I were you, I would trust his words at face value (that he is not in love), accept the ending and don't pursue him. IF it's meant to be, and if he truly is in love with you, he will come back to you. Let this time apart be a test.

Originally Posted by golden_eve

It is very possible that he is not in love and speaks the truth. He contradicts himself by not being able to let go, however. If I were you, I would trust his words at face value (that he is not in love), accept the ending and don't pursue him. IF it's meant to be, and if he truly is in love with you, he will come back to you. Let this time apart be a test.

Seconded.

[sky457]

As a guy, you have my respect for swallowing your pride and going back to him each time. That speaks to who you are as person. You don't give up on people -- the world needs more people like you.

With hope, he will see who you are and come back, like other people have mentioned.

[scorpiosis37]

If he says he’s not in love with you I would believe him. It sounds like he was probably trying to let you down gently. I would move on and think about making connections with new people and possibly meeting “the one” in the future.