[Blackstonewell]

From the age of 11 through high school, I had limited contact with people from the opposite sex. I was in special education, in a Self Contained method, that meant, all of my classes were at least in middle school were very much predominantly male; except for the teachers. By high school, I rarely came into contact at all with women and I never really spoke to them. When I graduated high school, the opposite sex didn't interest me because I had zero skills or experience in communicating with them. Now I'm in college and I see pretty women in my life, but that drive to talk to them or get to know them is alien to me. Although I think this is coupled with a sense of inferiority because I'm dysfunctional and have all but given up the ghost that I will somehow fix my social issues.

In college, I tend to pair off with one or two male classmates per class and just don't send my energies toward talking to females. Developmentally, I am doing the same as I did in high school, I'm just about my friends. However these friends are just for the semester because after the semester is over, the connection is over. I don't know if this is common or I'm just weird. Moreover, in school when I was a kid and a teenager I never made any friends, I just knew people that I was kind of born into having around, if that makes any sense...

The point is I have no idea how to make connections that don't end at the semester. In addition, I have zero motivation to talk to women but only on a very shallow basis. It's really just easier for me to feed my soul with my hobbies and the love of my family, but relationships outside if that just doesn't seem possible.

Are there any studies on the effects of boys denied interpersonal relationships with the opposite sex in their formative years?

Originally Posted by Blackstonewell

From the age of 11 through high school, I had limited contact with people from the opposite sex. I was in special education, in a Self Contained method, that meant, all of my classes were at least in middle school were very much predominantly male; except for the teachers. By high school, I rarely came into contact at all with women and I never really spoke to them. When I graduated high school, the opposite sex didn't interest me because I had zero skills or experience in communicating with them. Now I'm in college and I see pretty women in my life, but that drive to talk to them or get to know them is alien to me. Although I think this is coupled with a sense of inferiority because I'm dysfunctional and have all but given up the ghost that I will somehow fix my social issues.

In college, I tend to pair off with one or two male classmates per class and just don't send my energies toward talking to females. Developmentally, I am doing the same as I did in high school, I'm just about my friends. However these friends are just for the semester because after the semester is over, the connection is over. I don't know if this is common or I'm just weird. Moreover, in school when I was a kid and a teenager I never made any friends, I just knew people that I was kind of born into having around, if that makes any sense...

The point is I have no idea how to make connections that don't end at the semester. In addition, I have zero motivation to talk to women but only on a very shallow basis. It's really just easier for me to feed my soul with my hobbies and the love of my family, but relationships outside if that just doesn't seem possible.

Are there any studies on the effects of boys denied interpersonal relationships with the opposite sex in their formative years?

I hardly ever talked to women even though I've had plenty to talk to throughout my life.
My advice - go with your feelings. Your feelings can guide you to the right women to talk to.

[Bill3]

Perhaps you could join a few clubs or activities that do not end when the semester ends?