[socksbaby]

Hi guys. I was just wondering if anyone has any ideas as to why my ex treats me like this? Because I've been stumped for a while now.
As a person he is pretty quiet and reserved, kind of shy but we know each other well and we've been through a lot together. In March it will be a year since we broke up. Our breakup is a long story which I probably have posted about in the past but we are pretty much friends now.
Last week my ex called me saying he planned on paying me back some money he owed me and we got to chatting for over an hour. We caught up and talked about everything, we just laughed and had a really nice conversation like old times. I could tell he wanted to talk to me because every time there was a lull in the conversation he would quickly bring up another topic or ask me a question. He didn't want to hang up until it was 11 pm and he was going to sleep. While we were on the phone he was also asking me when we could hang out. I mentioned that my birthday is next week and he said he was going to get me something and if I have a party he'll come.
I didn't see him much last week because we had snow days, but every time I pass him in the halls he smiles at me and says hi. Today he said hi in the morning but I saw him like 3 more times and he didn't say anything, which made me feel like he was mad at me for some reason, but I didn't do anything.
He tends to do that, like whenever we sit down together and chat or talk on the phone we end up having a great conversation and he seems really into me. When we talk I feel that we are perfect together. But sometimes I feel like he just ignores me. For example, last month he made plans with me to go into the city to buy something, and when the day came that we were supposed to go neither of us brought it up so I figured he changed his mind about wanting to go or just forgot. Other times we'll be in a room together and he goes on his phone and doesn't really talk to me.
I just don't understand why he would go out of his way to make plans with me and then act weird afterwards.
If he was anyone else I would forget it and not care but I really do love him and he is a special person to me...when he gives me hope of getting back together I focus on him and it's really bad because he flip-flops like this.

[Bill3]

It can be difficult to know why a person does things. When he gets friendly he might be lonely, he might be feeling a spike of affection for you, he might just enjoy speaking to you. No doubt there are other possibilities. It seems, though, that it is not because he is willing to get back with you.

Given that he is not coming back, a question for you is how to respond to his casual cruelty in flip flopping and thereby tantalizing and and tormenting you. You could ease your pain and start to get past him by by cutting all contact with him.

[MickeyCheeky]

Perhaps you could ask this to him?