[Nada1365]

Hello,

I'm a 25 years old women and I caught feeling for this troubled young man.

He is 25 like me. When he was a kid, he was touched in a sexual manner by adults. I think that fact messed up with his head because now he has a lot of issues: He is bipolar, he has trouble ejaculating, he had a one-year depression, he doubts his fertility, he's been cheated on once etc.

At first, we were friends, but I was attracted to him physically and his sensitivity touched me. We started having sex together but it was never about being a couple. I caught feelings for him and he would always be distant. Only wanted to see me for sex. He sleeps with a lot of different girls and told me once that was because he was missing affection.

We had a big conversation and he told me that right now, he has a blockage, he doesn't know how to develop loving feelings for someone. He told me he feels like he does not deserve to be loved.

He is a very kind guy and lots of people and girls like him so I don't understand why he thinks that. He was a relieve for me because I always thought I wasn't good and pretty enough for him and too dramatic.

I said to him that maybe when he'll meet the girl of his dreams, he will be able to love again and he said that it has nothing to do with the girl of his dream, that the girl who is willing to wait for him to be able to love again is fine.

Anyway, he's a traumatized man I think, I made some research and found something called emotional deprivation disorder. Do you think it's that?

I really like this guy and I want to spend time with him but I'm afraid to fall in love and never being loved back. I feel like I want to help him but I don't know what to do

What can I do to help him? Should I just let him go because it's much of a risk?

The only thing I want is to love him and spend time with him but he always pushes me back.

[Wantingtogrow1029]

I think you deserve to be with someone who desires to be with you just as much as you want to be with them. Maybe hes playing games with your heart and knows the right things to say.

[winter loneliness]

It is truly hard to know right now, especially for us. Only time will tell whether he is saying what he wants you to believe or if he truly needs time ,to become emotionally responsive.

I will say, in my expirence, people rarely change.

[Crazy Hitch]

Can you two go for couples counselling together?

[avlady]

i feel for you, sometimes we have to deal with anothers problems when we are friends, or lovers, but that is what we are there for in a way. being a good friend can sometimes be hard, we have to make sacrifices and compromises too. good luck

[winter loneliness]

I have a history of falling in love with people, who end up hurting me. I have no good advice.