I have been through some ups and downs before. My hubby has fallen out with my daughter. He has one rule for himself and one for everyone else. I feel v intimidated at times, my daughter doesn't believe he loves her even though I tell her he does. He shows anger very well, but never other emotions. I wish he would just tell us he loves us sometimes. I know it's easy for me to show ,y love, not so easy for him, I dont want to change him, but he has to learn to talk like an adult and not shout and be cruel with his words.
Not sure where this i leading. I feel uncomfortable on my own. My son went out, I took daughter to bfs and I feel we have nothing to say. T he whole argument this morning has really upset me. My daughter was so distressed. He called her a nasty *****, he too is nasty, all this week he has been nasty.
I really dont know what to do

confused, Jin

[dragonphoto]

(((((((Jin))))))

This is part of the reason I am out of my house. I have never called any of my kids a name, but I do get kind of loud. I just wish that my wife understood these things. She wants me to get anger management courses but everyone that I have spoken to said that it is a waste of time because everyone that is in there has to be there and it is just a joke to them. I am very sorry that you are having to go through this. I send hugs to you.

yeah, I know he loves his kids so much, but only knows how to show anger, shout and not talk calmly. He can be very abusive to all of us. I just dont know anymore.

thanks for your input Dragon, Love, Kerry/Jin xx

It's so frustrating living with someone like that!!!!
I hear you...
The need to know that you're really loved... has to be fed with both words and actions...
I miss it too...
Thinking of you, my dear friend!

[Perna]

Don't think there's a whole lot you can do about his relationship with each of them. All you can do is be an example in your relationship to him, not letting him disrespect you and showing your love and respect for each child in a way others can see and appreciate.

thankyou Nina and Perna. I know he loves me but it just doesn't feel enough right now. He never tells me or cuddles me unless i ask or go to him first. I know this is the way he is and I am the way I am, noones fault. I am seriously wondering whether the end is nigh.......

Jin xx