[Nada1365]

Hello,

I'm a 25 years old women and I caught feeling for this troubled young man.

He is 25 like me. When he was a kid, he was touched in a sexual manner by adults. I think that fact messed up with his head because now he has a lot of issues: He is bipolar, he has trouble ejaculating, he had a one-year depression, he doubts his fertility, he's been cheated on once etc.

At first, we were friends, but I was attracted to him physically and his sensitivity touched me. We started having sex together but it was never about being a couple. I caught feelings for him and he would always be distant. Only wanted to see me for sex. He sleeps with a lot of different girls and told me once that was because he was missing affection.

We had a big conversation and he told me that right now, he has a blockage, he doesn't know how to develop loving feelings for someone. He told me he feels like he does not deserve to be loved.

He is a very kind guy and lots of people and girls like him so I don't understand why he thinks that. He was a relieve for me because I always thought I wasn't good and pretty enough for him and too dramatic.

I said to him that maybe when he'll meet the girl of his dreams, he will be able to love again and he said that it has nothing to do with the girl of his dream, that the girl who is willing to wait for him to be able to love again is fine.

Anyway, he's a traumatized man I think, I made some research and found something called emotional deprivation disorder. Do you think it's that?

I really like this guy and I want to spend time with him but I'm afraid to fall in love and never being loved back. I feel like I want to help him but I don't know what to do

What can I do to help him? Should I just let him go because it's much of a risk?

The only thing I want is to love him and spend time with him but he always pushes me back.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Nada: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry I cannot really comment with regard to what is going on with your friend, or with regard to what you can do to help him. It may be that there is really nothing you can do to help. He may well need professional mental health therapy services. However, that is something he needs to choose on his own. And, if he chooses not to pursue these, it may well be that the risk of staying with this man are just too great. But that's just my personal opinion. The subject of emotional deprivation disorder came up in another thread, here on PC, a few years ago. Here's a link to that post:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/othe...-disorder.html

I don't know, of course, if you're here simply seeking advice with regard to this particular concern or if you plan to hang in here with us. However, should you be planning to continue on (we hope you do)... may I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!