[Lonely_90]

When your with someone (in person) and you cannot stand them, you feel angry and instantly irritated. But as soon as you leave them the feeling goes away, you wonder if they are going to be ok??

My SO stole me this is how he feels about me, and he doesn’t understand why.

[eskielover]

Hmmmm, I started out like that with my H when first married. Over the years those things I didn't like built up & the caring when I wasn't around those things I didnt like went away & total anger was all I felt.

First off what is it about you that he can't stand? You have a right to know. Maybe it's him or maybe there are things with you that therapy could help change.

Sometimes that caring is because they feel guilty when not around you for feeling that way....but for some reason they are triggered by you when with you. Feelings are neither right ir wrong but the key if UNDERSTANDING the cause of the feelings so it can be dealt with

Nothing could fix our issues. I finally left but tolerated it fir 33 years which was why the anger built up so bad.

I hope you are able to work through this.

[AngryWithDogs]

I was in a relationship for a long time with a weird sort of dynamic. We always wanted to be together and spend time together, but as soon as we got together it was like an explosion of anger on both sides. We constantly argued and fought and even when we didn't do these things, we would just feel angry or annoyed at each other. We never did quite figure out why. But once the irritation or anger became too much, we'd leave each other's presence for a while then we both desperately missed each other and wanted to get back together. It was like a cycle of loneliness > happiness > anger constantly repeating several times per day. We both KNEW we were both kind of mentally not quite right as a result, but we both figured we'd never be able to have decent relationships with mentally healthy people because of our issues. So we stayed together for years. We did finally end up splitting up, but I haven't had a relationship in all the years since and neither has she. We used to go from lonely to happy to angry every day, now we're both just lonely all the time every day. We've both considered getting back together because at least there were times when we were both happy and neither of us have ever found anyone better.