Help for my obsession

Hi, not sure if I am in the right place, if not can someone please let me know, thanks. I was d diagnosed with borderline personality disorder many years ago. I am so obsessed with my friend that I literally spend every waking moment thinking about her. I even moved 7 months ago because it became a very 'toxic ' relationship. I thought it would help but it only made it worse as now that I am not living there I am not only obessed with thoughts of her but also have become very emotional with sadness and tears. Just to note, we were never in a relationship other then friends for 20+ years (she has a partner). I have been in counseling for quite a while now, but I think maybe someone with similar struggles would understand better. I just don't get it. Thanks.

Your friend must have been giving you the attention you needed and craved. Were you asking for too much of her time? Since you say you don't get it--did you have a frank conversation with her about it?

Time away her should eventually help you think of her less. But I think the best way to break a habit is to substitute a new habit. Can you pour you energy into a job, workout goals, volunteer, focus on a new friend or spend more time with a family member you love? You are having a hard time now but hopefully the pain will fade. I have heard people who are borderline have more attachment issues but I would like to think we can all overcome things like this.

Pye my obsessions are not constant, thankfully, but obsession is so difficult. I hope that your counselor can help you focus on other things in your life and your surroundings. Being active is a great help to me.

Is there any way you can keep yourself super busy so you are distracted and have less time to think about her? Join a club, study something part time etc