[Lolina]

I am working as a temp at a job till the end of this month then I will travel and work on other project.

It's not the first time I work for this company, and I always have good relationshionships with most people, its a great place to work.

There is this guy with whom I became "friend", and I would go to lunch with him, time to time from the first time I work there.

Then he told me he facied me and invited me for a drink, he was on holidays and he even brought me gifs.

I have never kissed him, even though at the very beginning I thought we would above all when we went to the movie and drink, and once he was in front of me I found him dull.

I am a loner myself, but when I am around other people I always try to be interested in them and to laugh and to be lively without doing too much.

Him he is just dulllllll, the conversaton are dull, with somebody like that I clearly can see any fun.

As he has my telephone number, from time to time he would message me and ask me to have lunch with him during our break at work or even to go out again.

For the going out again I always say that I am busy, but at work I do go time to time with him for lunch.

What I do not like is the fact that he keep trying and the compliments and stuff, I am just not interested. I talk about other guys by purpose, I even told him that I will go on holidays and I hope to meet a professional basketball player that I can fall in love with and marry. He seemed quite sad about it, and he told me next time I go there on holiday if he can come with me, I did not say yes as I don't want to go on holidays with him. I find him boring and I don't want to spend to much time with him either.

How to say that without being rude and unkind, because he is not a bad person I am just not interested in him.

One more thing, I do have lunch with him sometimes because I find my colleagues more annoying, they are all the time backstabbing each other or talking about their retiirement plan, I won't retire before 30 years so they bore me too.

I bring my lunch most days and I don't mind being alone but I think its important to be with others and socialize a bit.

I more and more like to be alone too much, and its more and more hard to find people with the same mindset as me and who are genuine.

I plan to do more activities so that I can meet different people and hopefully find a few with the same mindset as me.

I can't stand to pretend to enjoy myself and be around people that I don't enjoy.

IMO it's not a good idea to have lunch with him if you have no interest in him and find him dull. He seems to be clinging onto a hope that you will like him the way he seems to like you. I would recommend not spending time with him so he understands you don't like/fancy him.

[SorryShaped]

I would recommend being honest with him now. I would rather a woman tell me she's not interested in me from the beginning than waste my time and energy. What if he's falling in love with you, a little more each time, and you don't care? He's going to hurt more the longer you wait to tell him. Don't string him along. Be honest, for everyone involved here's sake. You can also tell him you want to be friends, but that's all, if you do want him as a friend. Expect things will get weird for a while either way, but there will be much less heartache if you're honest about yourself early on.

[WhatsNextNow]

Straight up tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you are not interested in dating him...ever. You cannot drop huge hints with people like him. They are either genuinely clueless, or they want to try and wear you down.

[SorryShaped]

"wear your down" makes me shudder. Just seems like a terrible way into a relationship.
Be straight up.

[Open Eyes]

I agree with other posters in that you need to let him know that you have lunch with him and don't mind talking to him from time to time but you want him to know that you are not interested in dating him and that you don't want to lead him on where he thinks that having lunch with him will lead to anything more. And also that he should not ask you to holiday with him either because you don't want him to get the idea there can be more than just sitting and talking with each other.

[Lolina]

Thank you guys for your opinions.
I want to add that the lunch are during lunch break at work not outside, I pay for my lunch, we have a canteen we do eat there.
But he is just uninteresting and dull, and when I have lunch with him, I make an effort because I know in advance I won't have fun and the fact that he asked me to go on holiday with me while I already told him no multiple times for drinks or going out outside of work show that I need to put a stop at the lunches, at the same time at the end of this month it will be over, so maybe it won't be necessary. I will just tell him I am busy or accept a last lucnh to say that he is like a friend for me nothing else, so he won't text me.
He asked me yesterday to have lunch with him next week again as if every week I have to have lunch with him, I have the impression he doesn't want to be alone and is needy not like genuine interest like falling in love.

I am pretty sure he could be an interesting person but its just he is in a boring routine and I think he lacks stimulus in his life.

I don't have a lot of friends and a boyfriend or husband so I am quite alone but not lonely, I love doing plenty of things by myself, and I always try to appreciate life, if I don't feel good I won't want to be around others either. Him shamelessly he wants to share his boredom and dullness lol.

I just want to add as well, some men think because a woman is single they can hit on her, it happened that I had to pretend I had a boyfriend for some guys to leave me alone. I am single and looking for a good man with the characteristics I want not anybody.

[Macd123]

Do him a favor and stop seeing him - you’re creating a bad situation if you’re not interested in being his friend.

[ReptileInYourHead]

He’s attracted to you and wants a relationship with you?
I say punch him in the face.