[greenpunkergirl]

My boyfriend has asked me multiple times about my divorce, and I was talking to a guy today about it, and he thinks my bf wants to get hitched. I am worried if that is the case, seeing as I am no where near ready to get married again. I'd have to say no if he did pop the q, and it would seriously damage if not destroy our reletionship. Is my friend wrong? Why is he continually asking me about this divorce? Any one have an idea?

[LMo]

I think your friend is wrong...

Having been divorced, I know that men I dated when I reentered the scene were also somewhat curious about my divorce, mostly to ascertain whether I still had feelings and/or baggage that would later reemerge in a detrimental way.

I wouldn't suspect your bf of that unless he himself gave some indication that he is ready for marriage. He probably just wants to know where you stand with your past and how it is going to affect your future relationships.

[Perna]

If your friend knows your boyfriend, then I'd give his answer a little credence but otherwise LMo has been through similar so her answer is plausible too.

Next time my boyfriend said anything about my divorce, I'd take a light/curious vein and asking him, "Why do you ask about my divorce so often?" If you are brave, you could head him off at the pass harmlessly and say something like "You want to ask me to marry you or something? Cause I'm not ready for marriage yet if that's what it is. . ." or something along those lines. I'd throw in a "I love you it's marriage I'm not ready for" kind of explanation too, just to make sure he understands that your relationship with him hasn't changed.

[silentangel]

ur bf could be asking for any number of reasons, the above replies are good examples of that. he could also be fishing for information, like WHY did u get a divorce. what went wrong (so he might not make the same mistakes) or just trying to get a feel for how that relationship went (i.e did u divorce cos u cheated, etc)