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At first, I thought that I may have Aspergers (which I ruled out..mostly), then I thought it may be anxiety related.. but I have so many odd habits that I wish would just go away.
Social situations are a huge problem. 1 being that I tend to avoid people I meet before even getting to know them. I also have issues talking a lot of the time. I stumble a lot, my thoughts get cut short, my words slur, or the words that come out don’t come out right (weird tone, volume, etc). I also might have palilalia (?) In relation to that, I tend to think back on conversations a lot. Which would be okay, but it leads to outbursts, and often weird facial expressions or body movements. Or I start mumbling the same phrase over and over. And it’s involuntary. Sometimes I even unknowingly stop what I’m doing completely and think about it b I’ve had social problems all my life really. I’ve never had mutual friendships, so they were always cut short. I tend to overshare, tell various white lies, or just come off too strongly. And I tend to have trouble with empathy. Or I just forget to read social cues because I’m focused on my thoughts, so I can say inappropriate things a lot. |
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Do you have a therapist that you see regularly?
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No. I’ve recently been working on getting a neuropsych eval. I probably can’t afford it though. If I don’t have any luck with it, I think I’ll try to get a therapist in about a month (when i return home from college).
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Hi. In my opinion, social anxiety and it's underlying causes could account for the things you're experiencing and could also account for why your life is being shaped the way it is. I have pretty bad social anxiety and can identify to everything you mentioned and know exactly what it's like. Absolutely. I think there could be traits of OCD involved as well, but the social anxiety and underlying causes of social anxiety, are the main culprits - I believe. Hang in there, you can work your way through it.
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Here's my opinion,
You should just accept yourself and love yourself. Yeah, being weird can be uncomfortable a lot of the time, but it's ok to be weird. |
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But I guess I've used my computer as an escape since childhood. It actually allowed me to become really tech savy. ^^' |
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I know what you mean, and yes, you're right - it's a continual seeking of reassurance, which I understand. That could be related to self esteem, too. Don't worry, you're going to be okay.
I think if you look into and start practicing 'mindfulness' techniques, then you'll start to become more composed, self assured, so to speak, as a person. It's helped me in that respect. And just over time as you continue to address your issues, in whatever way you can, then you'll see good changes taking place. Personally, I still struggle in some areas but in others I've grown and changed and I'm happy about that. It's a journey. |
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I often try to avoid people. It is probably due to the fact that for most of my life people have NOT been anything but trouble. My boss hasn't had that experience in life so he is an extrovert. He gets excited to see and chat with people. But for me... 99% of conversations are unpleasant so.. I want to avoid that. It isn't weird.. it is just my experience. For years now I have worked a somewhat public spokesman type of role. So I have a bit of an act that has formed. It is strange that the act is beloved by people and they want to get closer to me.. but I don't want that. And this hurts people's feelings as they feel they are being rejected. I so far.. don't know how to fix this... |
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But yeah. I feel like I've only had bad experiences with people as well. I find that when I'm talking to someone, and we get closer, I just get bored and completely forget about them. My supervisor is extroverted as well. But she got so annoyed by me, that she literally won't even look me in the eye anymore or talk to me unless necessary lol. Sometimes I don't understand what I even do anymore. |
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I'm totally off my rocker, a total loony and I just don't care if that isn't ok. It's me and it's the way that I am. |
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Would you rather be uncomfortable being someone you aren't or be uncomfortable because you are yourself. One of those involves two things you'd have to make effort for
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someone I’m not tbh.
nvm. i’m just gonna die lol. |
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Your weird because you're different than the rest. That's not always a bad thing. Think of the guy that said, "I'm gonna run some electricity through this and watch it light up. Ok maybe that thing. Well that caught fire. I'm hoping to keep it lit longer than that. I'll keep trying." How strange would that sound to everyone else at the time. By the way, that wasn't Edison.
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