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So hey guys! I dont post much but i am 17 year old girl and currently in college. All my friends here are guys. It seems like girls hate me and ive had a lot of drama going on with them. The only guy here i dont really get alobg with is gay and is as sensitive as a woman. There is this gurl who i care about and ive told her so replies on snapchat that she hates me and proceeds to call me pathetic for aomething i didnt do. She also says i act like i own the place and that every problem going on here w drama is my fault. I sent her a song called dont play by halsey and she threatened to report me to the campus police for me harrassing her. And the thing is i did get reported but for something intirely different. Someone the gay guy found out that i had been cutting after my break down due to all the stress and reported it after i told him not too and he promised me he wouldnt. But we got into an arguement and he raised his voice over the issue which caused the girl i told i care about her to hear. And now she doeant seem to hate me anymore. But the thing is i want her to want to like me. Not just bc i have my issues or could end up killing myself here. I know why the guy told on me hes saving his own skin in case something does happen. Today i was told i wasnt allowed to sit next to her durong lunch by another girl so ileft. But she texted my guy friend that she was upset by her saying that to me and didnt mind if i did. For dinner she actually sat by herself so i wasnt compelled to have to make the choice of whether or not it was ok to sit near my friends if she was there too bc remeber i wasnt supposed to know she was upset over this. And last night she actually made the choice to sit near me.
Anyways she is bi and although i dont like girls to much after all theyve done to me i do like her she is different and i have told her so and ehy which only seemed to confuse her bc she has told me she doesnt know what to think of me. I do know however thst no matter what she says or does to me i will always care about her and one day i hope for that to be mutual. Any help with girl on girl issues guys?

[~Christina]

Sounds like just a drama fest in middle school honestly, sad.

Can you just back off from everyone and let the dust settle??? Then proceed carefully and be open, honest and with kindness.

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Hmm ive been trying too but sometimes i cant help myself ive been told that their jealous of me but idk?

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Yes its lame and they are all older than me too

[Bill3]

I like your quote very much!

What sets your soul on fire?

I wonder whether focusing more intently on that would help you steer clear of drama.

[ShadowGX]

Yeesh, that sounds like a lot of drama I'd not want to deal with. I too don't get along with fellow females. My interests and attitude all mesh much better with guys and I can't stand the petty dramatic attitudes of most females. I do get wanting to have a female friend, but you might have to try to find one that is less of a drama queen and cut your losses on these ones. =/ Not everyone meshes well with everyone.

[lady411]

Yes I agree that is a lot of drama. Unless it’s something you like to surround yourself with. Sounds to me like your dealing with this more maturity than your peers. Good job on that. Now try to focus on just telling the girl you like how you feel. Maybe not doing directly with words but perhaps with actions.

[Erebos]

Never got along with girls either, personally I just keep the hell away from the drama llamas, even the ones I am hot for.

It's never worth it.

Hope you manage to steer clear of the histrionics.

When I was younger, around your age and well into my 20's and 30's, I used to have mainly male friends for just that reason -- the girls I met and knew were all about drama and back stabbing each other. And yes, a lot of it involved jealousy. This does sound like a lot of drama, as others are pointing out.

My advice as well: steer clear of the drama. Just don't involve yourself in it.

As for the girl you care about, I am curious why you want to be friends with her if she had initially accused you of being pathetic, openly said she hates you, and threatened to report you for harassment? If I understood you correctly? Her feelings may have changed and she may have gained greater compassion for you, given what you wrote, but if someone had said those things to me, I would try and steer clear of that person. She also has said she doesn't know what to think of you..... I say, don't push this friendship... just keep your guy friends and try to seek out other more mature females to bond with.

I think you shouldn't be friend with the girl who made you have a breakdown, no matter how attached you are to her. Also, don't cut yourself as when people will see these wounds they will probably question you. You cannot blame her as this will further make the relationship more toxic.

Toxic relationships.

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Thank you guys i wasnt expecting so many replies! So the reason i want to be friends with this girl is bc i enjoy her company and she makes me feel happier. I know what she said i aslo know that she probably regrets them and was just in a bad mood when she said them. (I hope) Anyways even though i havent known her that long i feel a connection. And im going to keep fighting for her friendship but not in a forceful or overpowering way.
Bill to answer your question love is what sets my soul on fire.