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Veteran Member
Member Since Aug 2005
Location: Eugene, Oregon
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Nov 14, 2007 at 12:28 AM
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With so many members I hope someone has an answer that could realistically work. I have received good advise, but of course none of the answers were the ones I wanted. But since I am really reaching here, remember, I did say "realisticaly work"! OR if you cant do that, talk some damn sense into me.
Is there anything I can do to get someone back in my life when they have decided they dont want me around. Because of my addiction and my on it again, off it clean again life. My ex is totally against illegal drugs. But I guess I should mention that he would take someone elses perscription for pain killers and wakes up to a beer! Sounds pretty stupid for me to want back in that relationship. Maybe I dont. Maybe it is just the fact that I have never been the one who felt all the blame for the breakup is on me. We really did have a great relationship before I continued with my habit and he found out. Lying is not good anyway and that was bound to happen right? PLEASE comment __________________ People are like stained glass windows They sparkle and shine in the sun but when darkness hits their true beauty is revealed only when there is light within . Elizabeth Krubel-Ros |
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Poohbah
Member Since Oct 2007
Location: Minnesota
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Nov 14, 2007 at 02:04 AM
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Two stupid questions. 1. Are you still using? 2. Have you apologized for the behavior?
If it was a good relationship, you may be able to talk things out, take things slow and begin to rebuild that trust. There's no guarantees but it's all you can really do. However, you can't do any of this if you're still using or can't bring yourself to apologize for the secrets, etc. My two cents. Be safe. Cyran0 __________________ My blog: http://cyran0.psychcentral.net/ Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD (childhood physical/sexual abuse), history of drug abuse. Meds: Zoloft, Lorazapam, Coffee, Cigarettes "I may climb perhaps to no great heights, but I will climb alone." -Cyrano de Bergerac |
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Grand Poohbah
Member Since Feb 2007
Location: Chalmette, Louisiana
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Nov 14, 2007 at 02:39 AM
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(((((((((Curley)))))))))
sorry, wish i could support you more right now. love ya chalmette __________________ So often we dwell on the things that seem impossible rather than on the things that are possible. So often we are depressed by what remains to be done and forget to be thankful for all that has been done.--Marian Wright Edelman |
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Member Since Jul 2007
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Nov 14, 2007 at 04:57 PM
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 Ice water,,,a bag of m&m"s,,,And awhole lot of distraction!!!!! It is better than a court order and forced group sessions and a little plastic cup you carry to the bathroom.Now the other thing. I think you LOve yourself and the bird will light on your finger again . But if not ,,, you have at least won the worst battle . |
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Wise Elder
Member Since Jun 2005
Location: WV
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Nov 14, 2007 at 06:46 PM
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Curly, you said, "My ex is totally against illegal drugs. But I guess I should mention that he would take someone elses perscription for pain killers and wakes up to a beer! Sounds pretty stupid for me to want back in that relationship."
I don't want to sound like a wet blanket here, but you do know that two "users" do not a happy couple make. It actually sounds like you need to focus on your own recovery and dismiss thoughs of reuniting with this man. Patty |
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Pandita-in-training
Member Since Sep 2006
Location: Maryland
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Nov 14, 2007 at 07:10 PM
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Stay in vague touch (at least keep an email address or phone number for him), clean up your life and get some stuff going that is good then invite him out to dinner. I'm talking 6 months or so, a nice job, place to live, a few interesting friends, etc., whatever you want your life to be like with/without him in it; get that as best you can (or on the way to that -- in school or with a job that has promotional possibilities, etc. -- some sort of 5 year (at least) "plan" for your life) and then try to incorporate him again :-)
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