[randoms]

I'm so afraid that I'll lose my best friend. He's my entire life and we're going to different schools, hence why I'm so scared. I know nobody knows what's going to happen beforehand, but I'm scared he'll leave me for someone else, even if it's not intentional. I'm afraid he'll find another person he'd rather trust and rely on, and that I'll be left behind. I've been left before by people, quite a lot. But in those instances we never were so close anyway. It's pretty irrational, I think. It's not that I've done something to him that could be interpreted as mean or rude or something like that. It's not that I don't trust him; I do. With my entire heart. And that's why I'm so scared we'll lose that bond. What should I do? I don't want to bring it up, because I don't ever want him to think I don't trust him enough.

[Skeezyks]

Hello randoms: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

I'm sorry you are struggling with this fear. Your fear is, of course, something that could come to pass. Since you & your friend are going to different schools, it is certainly possible the two of you could just drift apart. It happens. And I do understand your not wanting to talk with him about your fears because you don't want him to think you don't trust him. That makes sense to me.

Still, since this is clearly something that is of concern to you, I think it's important for you to talk it through with somebody. That could be a relative, another trusted friend, a clergy person (if you're religious), a counselor or therapist... whomever you feel comfortable confiding in. Allowing your fears to simply continue to rattle around in your head, so to speak, is a prescription for ongoing sadness, from my perspective. Beyond that, I think it's simply a matter of doing whatever you can to keep in touch with your friend via text, e-mail, phone, in-person visits, etc. and then, in addition, getting out & becoming involved in life at your school. Focusing on what's going on in your life day-to-day will also help to calm your fears regarding the possible loss of your friend.

Here are links to 2 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of growing & maintaining friendships. Perhaps some of the information in these articles can be of some help:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-car...of-friendship/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/growing...dium=popular17

My best wishes to you...

[ShadowGX]

I struggle with these same feelings so much. Sometimes friendships just fade, other times it's something I do to make them go away. Just try to enjoy him while you can and maintain as much contact as possible. If possible, find more friends so that if/when he gets too busy to talk then you will have someone else to help fill the gap. Therapy may also be a good option for you.

[Shazerac]

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