Ridiculous crush at work - need advice

Jun 19, 2018 at 10:17 AM

I agree with the above -- I would also add to keep your own husband in mind and his feelings. How would you feel if your husband behaved that way around another female? Would you feel hurt and betrayed or would it not matter to you?

JustJenny · Jun 19, 2018 at 03:40 PM

I do think about the spouses, I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. I cannot control what goes on in my head, especially the unconscious part.

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Originally Posted by golden_eve

I agree with the above -- I would also add to keep your own husband in mind and his feelings. How would you feel if your husband behaved that way around another female? Would you feel hurt and betrayed or would it not matter to you?

Actually, now that I am going through this, I would be more understanding if my husband fell for another woman. I would definitely not like that and I would feel hurt, but if it happened unintentionally... I really did not plan or aim for developing feelings for another man, but here I am.

I do feel like I am betraying my husband little bit, not physically of course. I do believe it would hurt him a lot if he found out what is happening to me.

Jun 19, 2018 at 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by JustJenny

I do think about the spouses, I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. I cannot control what goes on in my head, especially the unconscious part.

Actually, now that I am going through this, I would be more understanding if my husband fell for another woman. I would definitely not like that and I would feel hurt, but if it happened unintentionally... I really did not plan or aim for developing feelings for another man, but here I am.

I do feel like I am betraying my husband little bit, not physically of course. I do believe it would hurt him a lot if he found out what is happening to me.

But you can control how you behave around this man. It's not as though you have no control over your own behavior. No need to allow yourself to act like a school girl around him. If your husband would be hurt, and so would you if he did the same, even if you understood it, well, actions, and reactions to people, can be reigned in.

There is always the possibility of meeting someone new who strikes your interest, attention or attraction. It's how we respond to that which matters the most. If you wouldn't like it if your husband did this, then think about his feelings whenever you are around this man.

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