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As you may know, I met another man who is an investment banker. He is quite successful although he had a stroke and is paralyzed in one arm and a little disabled in his legs. He is nice and likes to post on facebook on his free time. He knows about my mental illness and empathizes to some extent. Well, he has been sending me messages about financially successful people who started out humbly and also about people, such as Abe Lincoln. This is all nice but I am wondering if he thinks I'm not trying hard enough to be successful when I'm doing my best to survive with my illness. I think it is ok to send inspirational messages to all of one's friends on facebook but he is sending it specifically to me as if I need motivation. So, I feel rather dismayed by these messages. Yes, I could use some inspiration and motivation. But, I am not in the same league as Conrad Hilton or J.Paul Getty or Packard nor am I Abe Lincoln. I am just simply me. Argh!! So, I am wondering how others would react if someone kept sending inspirational messages about people who have been successful but have not suffered from mental illness may be except for Abe Lincoln who had depression. I feel rather perplexed. Should I be moved emotionally by such messages or should I realize he thinks I'm lazy or something? I am not going to ask him his reasons for sending me these messages because I don't want to insult him. However, it may be inspirational at first but to keep sending me such messages is annoying to say the least. I am impressed by his background and business acumen. But, his messages have some kind of meaning of 1. I need to be motivated or 2. He admires such people and wants to share it with me. Which one do you think his intentions are? He knows very influential people, I understand. But, well, if he wants me to be like them, I am not going to be like them but just simply me. He is supportive to some extent and tells me to be careful in the hot humid sun, but these messages have some meaning to them which I may be misconstruing but wonder how others would react to them. Thank you for reading and please offer your opinion. I am just a plebeian with no intention of becoming the next influential leader in society. I am happy with myself and have no desire to re-create myself for anybody or anything. But, I don't have the guts to tell him this. Thus, how would you react to these messages and what do you think his intentions are?
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I think talking about this with him is the only way to truly know his motivation.
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I know it sounds like the best idea is to talk to him about it. It is not that serious of an issue, but I was just wondering about it. Yes, I like his company and do like him as a person. He is amazing given his situation. He has been around the world and can talk about anything. I will try to take his motivational messages as a source of encouragement. I do not write him too much but he likes to write me such messages. I think he thinks he is doing good by sending me such messages. So be it. I am not going to worry about it too much. It is innocuous and not that big of a deal. I think sometimes my illness takes over and blinds my perspective. He is a decent man and respectable. He is not perfect nor am I. We are still trying to get to know each other. He is very outgoing and knowledgeable about many things. I admire him very much. Thus, for now, I will overlook his intentions and just be happy with the person he is.
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you should ask him why he is sending specifically to you and your thoughts when you receive them. he may want you to feel special rather than posting on social sites. it may be his awkward way of getting more closer to you as not a flirtatious guy and doesn't want to push romance too fast for you to accept.
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Hi, Your friend sounds really nice and sees something positive in you. Sorry to hear that you think there's a different motive for him sending you these messages. I don't think there is anything negative to them. I doubt he thinks you're "lazy". These messages are a sign that he cares about you.
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My quotes for myself and others.
“Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart “Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it’s all an experience.” ― Roy T. Bennett “Great things happen to those who don't stop believing, trying, learning, and being grateful.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart “Always remember people who have helped you along the way, and don’t forget to lift someone up.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart Pursue what catches your heart, not what catches your eyes.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart “Always find opportunities to make someone smile, and to offer random acts of kindness in everyday life.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart “Do not fear failure but rather fear not trying.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart “Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart |
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I posted these on my facebook page. He left a symbol saying he loves me. Now, I am crying and told him on facebook that I love him too!
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