Family aren't attending my wedding

A bit of background story -
I have had quite a rocky relationship with my mother, my whole life. She continuously puts me down and if she doesn't have control over me, she bullies me and trys to gain control. She is extremely manipulative. So much so that it wasn't until I had months and months of intensive professional therapy to find out the route of the problem.
I am due to get married next year and my mum, my dad, sister and brother are refusing to attend it. Only one of my sister's is coming. I am beyond mortified and embarrassed. My husband to be has 300 family members coming and I have one person from my side. I'm absolutely heartbroken. I have contacted my family members to try and persuade them to go and they won't. They come up with every excuse under the sun. I know it's because they won't go against my mother.
To be honest, I want to cancel the big wedding and just have a small ceremony but it's all bought and paid for and my husband is from a very close large family who would be upset to not see the wedding. Plus, why should my husband suffer because of my family.
I'm so upset. Thinking about the day itself makes me so anxious and full of dread. I feel like I'll walk down the eisle (my daughter's walking me down) and people will be whispering.

I'm so sorry.

((((hugs)))))

what a special ocasion as well

I really hope you try and make the best of things

when is the big day...?

It’s your day. Just remember that. I get upset about people whispering about me in situations like this but when I really think about it, I know it doesn’t matter. Do those other people live with you and pay your bills? Nope. You’re living your own life and you have every right to be happy in it if you so choose. Your family is not you. Don’t be embarrassed by their behavior. They should be embarrassed for themselves. Don’t let them take up space in your head and make you unhappy. If they don’t know how to properly behave, you are likely to enjoy your day more without them there anyway. ❤️

They might not be supportive of your marriage to this person if that’s the same person you’ve been with for awhile: the one that physically assaulted you the first time you met, doesn’t work, doesn’t shower, eats and sleeps day, still lives with his parents rent free and expects you to move to his country get a job and support him.

I sure hope it’s a different person because if it’s him, your family might have a reason to not support this marriage. Plus you said you are already married and now just waiting for a visa so you can move to this guy’s country. I likely would still attend my daughter’s wedding under the circumstances but I’d be pretty devastated over the whole arrangement. And who is paying for this wedding?

Let Mehgan, Duchess of Sussex, be an inspiration to you. I don't follow the royals that closely, but what I see on TV has me persuaded that Miss Meghan is well out of the family she came from, and more power to her. Those who would mar your wedding day with unpleasantness are unworthy of you.

For those in the pews who'll see you escorted down the aisle by your daughter, they will chose to react, based on what they are about. Those who will whisper and cluck and see your aloneness as material to gossip about are unworthy of you. Weddings bring two families together to demonstrate their concern and support for the new couple. This is when his family formally welcomes you into being one of their own. If the pews on your side are deserted, then it tells his family that you have lots of room in your life and in your heart for those on the other side who wish to embrace you. Make the most of getting to know those who do. The rest don't matter.

When people show you coldness, it's kind of a favor. It let's you know that your attention is best invested elsewhere. It tells you where not to waste your time and energy and love. That leaves you with more to give to the connections that can enrich your life.

Finally, I would caution you against holding your mother responsible for the behavior of everyone in your own family. Let your dad, your brother and your sister each own his or her behavior. They are adults. Next year is a ways off. Try not to project. Don't get upset today at what someone might do tomorrow. Humans are famous for not following through on their promises, nor on their threats. A lot can happen between now and then.

Perhaps a wedding of 300+ attendees isn't the most appropriate decision then. If it were me I would opt for something small and intimate. This would solve things for you.

Now as for your family not attending. I think you need to ask yourself the hard question of why it matters that they attend. Is it about saving face? Is it about having them willingly support and validate your marriage choice? Would you truly be absolutely comfortable if they attended? What is the value of them attending?

I'm sorry this is happening to you However, even though I understand your disappointment, I'd say go on with it. It's their choice not to attend, it's not like you ignored them or something like that. I hope you'll have a nice ceremony