[RubySapphire]

My girlfriend and I were meant to go to her friends drinking party together with 30 people (male and female) however I am sick and could not go.
It turned out she didn’t have much data but for some reason she could text me - When she drinks, she drinks a lot and I can’t help but also feel a little insecure because people have a tendency to flirt with her at things involving drinking.
So when I woke up this morning, 7:30am, I found that she had never messaged me back a ‘goodnight’
I can’t help but feel quite upset, anxious and resentful - it should be noted this is the first time this has happened, mainly because we have been codependent on each other in the past.
I’m wondering if it’s normal to feel this way, because at the same time I know that 1. She’s at a party where there’s drinking 2. She didn’t have much data 3. She deserves a night where she doesn’t have to worry about me
But then I also feel she should have gone out of her way to at least say something back

It should be noted that I am borderline, meaning I’m quite emotionally unstable and jump to very big conclusions, and overreact to anything that seems like my girlfriend is leaving/cheating on me at all.

[crushed_soul]

I wish for you to be well, RubySapphire and that your relationship is going well.

Have you two talked since the last text message?

I apologize for my lack of insight, specifically for borderline; however, there are some rather friendly members here, who are much more insightful than I am and will most likely reply to your opening post.

You seem to well understand and to be exercising reason that there might be causes for her to not have texted you last night that do not consist of cheating, leaving and so forth.

[healingme4me]

I think it's common for anyone regardless of anything MH related to become a bit taken aback or put out or frustrated for that matter when routines change. Something as seemingly as small as a goodnight text or lack there of can set off feelings of being forgotten or dismissed. It can be a bit of an inconsideration. At the same time, in your OP you mention heavy drinking, when drinking, so with drinking out goes the ability to adhere to many things sometimes. I'm sure such things have wreaked havoc on many relationships and upset a good many people in this world.

Is it ok to be perturbed/miffed/annoyed, etc? Absolutely.

I'd probably try to steer myself away from all things of the imagination aspect, but certainly feel your feelings and try to sort through them.