[happysobercrafter]

I have two older sisters who are both brutal and cruel. Our "mother" who was a psychopath, groomed them to be her thugs. All three abused me relentlessly, so much that almost my entire childhood is a blank.

I became an alcoholic, of course, needy, insecure, terrified of life, promiscuous. I am estranged from them. I refuse to tolerate their abuse and the oldest is a therapist.

(((((HappyCrafter))))) I'm so sorry you experienced such abuse when you were only a child. To see your sister become a therapist, I'd imagine would be very triggering.

I am glad you cut them out of your life. That's healthy and sounds empowering for you. Good for you!

[WishfulThinker66]

Yes I have; and, it too was cultivated by a mentally ill mother.

To this day my brother acts all high and mighty over me and has been pretty heartless and cruel.

Our mother was very much the person to play favouritism. This reinforced my brother's idea that he was better than me while I was lowly and deserved to be treated as such - with a great amount of laughing and prejudice. Mom groomed him too into being my tormentor which is something that increased with her passing. He moved in to fill the void as it were.

Mom played the difference between us two glaringly - I received a $17 dollar present one Christmas where my brother received what must have been valued at over $1000. His reaction was to laugh and lord it over me. As we got older he took advantage of being the golden child to outright be abusive. I understand your pain.

[TishaBuv]

I’m sorry this happened to all of you.

Fortunately, my mother did not play favorites and pit us against each other. She was a B to all of us, lol. We bonded in later years exchanging stories of abuse by her and coming to the conclusion that it was abuse and she has something wrong with her.

But, ultimately my sisters don’t really care about me. We are not really a functional family. We’ve put on a good front to date. It’s me who is stopping the charade, phoney B’s...

There was something very wrong here. We all were damaged anyway.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry to hear it but you did the right thing by cutting them out. Now you can live your own life

[KEB1990]

Yes sadly I have. My sister is 10 years older so that didn't help much. She's been mentality and physically since I can remember. My mom and dad were older when they had me and started to get sick and she took advantage of that. She also has health issues herself but uses that . I'm sorry you had to deal with that too.

[MtnTime2896]

Yes. And this is the first time I've ever said it on here, but my older brother used to physically abuse me regularly. My older sister... well she did worse. I can't find the strength to really talk about it. All I know is I have this mix of feelings towards my brother. On one hand, he did all of those things, but he got better and we have a relationship. In truth though, I'm always waiting for another outburst of rage.

I'm sorry this happened to you. There's no excuse or reasoning behind it. It's madness, plain and simple. Keep taking care of yourself, the way your family never did.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by HappyCrafter

I have two older sisters who are both brutal and cruel. Our "mother" who was a psychopath, groomed them to be her thugs. All three abused me relentlessly, so much that almost my entire childhood is a blank.

I became an alcoholic, of course, needy, insecure, terrified of life, promiscuous. I am estranged from them. I refuse to tolerate their abuse and the oldest is a therapist.

I'm sorry that you are struggling right now! Have you thought about report in your sibling who is a therapist by exposing her abuse to other? It a great idea to cut of ties with them.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by KnitChick

(((((HappyCrafter))))) I'm so sorry you experienced such abuse when you were only a child. To see your sister become a therapist, I'd imagine would be very triggering.

I am glad you cut them out of your life. That's healthy and sounds empowering for you. Good for you!

I completely agree!

[Open Eyes]

I can believe that one of your dysfunctional sisters is a therapist. Some actually gravitate towards being a therapist in that these individuals can label and criticize and get a kind of sense of power and entitlement and sense of superiority. I have seen it myself and YES there are individuals who call themselves psychologists and therapists that are actually very broken and disturbed individuals themselves. Actually, I have read articles describing very dysfunctional psychologists/therapists that use the craft as a way to manipulate for self gains. Unfortunately, toxic people can be found in all kinds of service areas, doctors, lawyers, psychologists, teachers, coaches, principals, politicians, dentists, psychiatrists and yes siblings and parents the list is endless.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I’m sorry this happened to all of you.

Fortunately, my mother did not play favorites and pit us against each other. She was a B to all of us, lol. We bonded in later years exchanging stories of abuse by her and coming to the conclusion that it was abuse and she has something wrong with her.

But, ultimately my sisters don’t really care about me. We are not really a functional family. We’ve put on a good front to date. It’s me who is stopping the charade, phoney B’s...

There was something very wrong here. We all were damaged anyway.

That describes my family in many ways

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by KnitChick

(((((HappyCrafter))))) I'm so sorry you experienced such abuse when you were only a child. To see your sister become a therapist, I'd imagine would be very triggering.

I am glad you cut them out of your life. That's healthy and sounds empowering for you. Good for you!

Sometimes cutting people out of your life who is toxic is the best thing to do.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I'm so sorry to hear it but you did the right thing by cutting them out. Now you can live your own life

I agree!

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by KEB1990

Yes sadly I have. My sister is 10 years older so that didn't help much. She's been mentality and physically since I can remember. My mom and dad were older when they had me and started to get sick and she took advantage of that. She also has health issues herself but uses that . I'm sorry you had to deal with that too.

My brother are like that and my two sister are spoil and I was blame for all the wrong doing they did.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Só leigheas

Yes. And this is the first time I've ever said it on here, but my older brother used to physically abuse me regularly. My older sister... well she did worse. I can't find the strength to really talk about it. All I know is I have this mix of feelings towards my brother. On one hand, he did all of those things, but he got better and we have a relationship. In truth though, I'm always waiting for another outburst of rage.

I'm sorry this happened to you. There's no excuse or reasoning behind it. It's madness, plain and simple. Keep taking care of yourself, the way your family never did.

That describes my brother!

I’m so sorry. You were abused by the people you should have been able to trust most. It’s no wonder you felt you had nowhere to turn. Good for you to cut them out of your life and stand on your own two feet. I respect and admire you for that. ❤️ So crazy one of the sisters became a therapist.

Yes, I have. I struggled a bit with alcohol to numb things, and I don't dare drink again. At least I pray I don't.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

I can believe that one of your dysfunctional sisters is a therapist. Some actually gravitate towards being a therapist in that these individuals can label and criticize and get a kind of sense of power and entitlement and sense of superiority. I have seen it myself and YES there are individuals who call themselves psychologists and therapists that are actually very broken and disturbed individuals themselves. Actually, I have read articles describing very dysfunctional psychologists/therapists that use the craft as a way to manipulate for self gains. Unfortunately, toxic people can be found in all kinds of service areas, doctors, lawyers, psychologists, teachers, coaches, principals, politicians, dentists, psychiatrists and yes siblings and parents the list is endless.

I believe you! I seen it myself!

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Sisabel

I’m so sorry. You were abused by the people you should have been able to trust most. It’s no wonder you felt you had nowhere to turn. Good for you to cut them out of your life and stand on your own two feet. I respect and admire you for that. ❤️ So crazy one of the sisters became a therapist.

My entire family is dysfunctional and my nephew don't understand why I avoid certain family member because he was too young to remember.

Originally Posted by Buffy01

My entire family is dysfunctional and my nephew don't understand why I avoid certain family member because he was too young to remember.

I have a crazy family too. I finally cut off ties also.... after years of trying and realizing it would never change. I know how hard it is to do that.

[UCLAFan]

Have 2 verbally abusive siblings.one i don't talk to at all.the other i talk to on the phone maybe 2 to 3 times a year.my mom was mentally ill wouldn't get help.my brother was a jock in high school.my sister a cheerleader & miss las vegas in the early 1980's.i wasn't a nerd in school but wasn't popular growing up & my siblings constantly harassed me about it.i was called ugly,fat,retarded by both my siblings

[lady411]

First I want to express how sorry i am for the posters above who have endured any abuse, especially as children. No one should ever have to deal with any abuse as a child.

They do say we don't get to choose our family but we do get to choose who we maintain in our lives. So good for you for cutting out the toxic people in your life.