[swp3664]

I have been in a relationship for three years. This individual has become my first love and the women I wanted to spend forever with. I am not the most perfect human begin and I have my many flaws. However, this girl accepts me for who I am and had loved me to the fullest. This year is my final year in college, I have begun the start of my internship, working a job, and taking on a full time student roll. I admit I have not be placing my women first and have not realized I was hurting her and not making her feel whole.A few different reason have lead her to end our relationship and I fully understand her pain and why she has been upset. However, it has taken me until now to understand her hurt. It had taken her to end our relationship for me to fully understand the seriousness of her pain. I have fully admitted to my wrongs, I have tried contacting her multiple times maybe a little too much. I just want to prove to her that I am fully committed to making our relationship work and fully committed to working on my flaws I have as a boyfriend. However, I have gotten no response. I know she has a difficult time communicating. But I do not know what more I can do to show her I can fully commit to our relationship. Do I give her space or continue to attempt to contact her?

Maybe let her know that you'll always be there for her then give her a bit of space and let her decide whether to contact you in return?

I assume she knows by now that you want to try again, am I understanding your post right?

[MickeyCheeky]

Yeah, I think you should give her space. You can't force her to come back with you... so I agree with whisper: stay in contact, but don't insist too much.

[Skeezyks]

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[s4ndm4n2006]

if you contact someone more than once and there is still no response it kind of says that they are either not interested in having a conversation and at the moment they need space. Continuing to contact someone that is unresponsive will quickly devolve into a very intrusive situation and could be taken as kind of harassing them.

[mote.of.soul]

Originally Posted by swp3664

... Do I give her space or continue to attempt to contact her?

Give her space now. You've tried to contact her, she's probably read your messages, and so the ball is now in her court as to whether or not she chooses to reach out to you. You've realised your mistakes now too, so it's all a learning curve, swp3664. It's all a learning curve.