Keeping a relationship where one or more members has a mood or emotional disorder is difficult. Our goals seem to be the same. We both want a peaceful and moreover stress-free working relationship. Despite how much effort I put in, somehow, I feel like every other time we interact, my expectations lower (in fear of disappointment, discouragement, abandonment or other). Should I exclude this person from my life? Are there other ways to cope with this type of relationship?

I think keeping your expectations low is a realistic way to safeguard yourself from disappointment.

I am not sure if you should exclude this person from your life, but you should probably distance yourself from him or her significantly. While it's good to be understanding and sensitive towards his/ her emotional issues, you are not responsible for accommodating his/ her every mood disruption.

I think finding more healthier people to interact with, would be good for you.

[sarahsweets]

Its so upsetting to hear and see people say they will lower their expectations of people who are mentally unwell but I get it, you have to protect yourself.

My expectations are high to begin with. I tend to keep high expectations for myself and those around me. Maybe I need to work on more realistic goals like understanding and sensitivity. One of the most difficult challenges is that we idealize different concepts of success, structure and function. Limiting our contact has helped drastically for my everyday. Thanks for listening

[MickeyCheeky]

Yeah, I think you need to limit the amoutn of time you see these people. You need to take care of yourself as well. Wish you good luck! Sending many hugs to you

[WishfulThinker66]

Perhaps concentrating on postive enriching relationships is the way to go.

I too have fallen into the trap of setting high standards and expectations. I am sure this stems from the fact I have set incredibly unrealistic ones for myself. It has resulted in disappointment after disappointment in the past. This is something I am desperately working on. It isn't easy but it has already resulted in fewer relationship issues.