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Poohbah
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Dec 02, 2002 at 01:27 PM
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We had a peer review yesterday. I am still feeling a little stunned. What we did is over the last 2 weeks we wrote down 2 things we liked about each of our co-workers (and our boss) and 1 thing that needed improvement on. Then a therapist that helps with worker relations compiled the lists so that what we wrote would be completely anonymous. This made it possible to be perfectly honest with out fear of retribution.
I was frightened to death about going to this meeting. I felt that I couldn't face the critism, the hidden annimosity that I was sure would be written to me. I mean I was possitive that they would point out how they knew what a rotten person I am. How bad I am. Well, like I said, I am stunned. They said I was caring and trustworthy. Friendly and good with customers. That I had an "orderly mind", ha ha. "A mother's order out of chaos." I never saw myself like that. On the improvements, out of 10 people only one wrote something that needed improvement. "Pay more attention to detail when entering inventory." I knew this. I have been avoiding entering inventory when my brain is in the misfiring freaky mode because my concentration waivers and I make multiple mistakes. One person wrote, "She just makes me comfortable. She's all for growing." That was on the improvement list! LOL. I know this all should make me rejoice but here I am in this funk. What it means to me is that once again I have to face the fact that basically I am a decent person. This is hard for me, something that my T keeps trying to get me to realize and I keep sliding back from. ARGH! Why can't we just throw out the old programing? Zen <font color=blue>that I would be good even if I did nothing, that I would be good even if I got the thumbs down, that I would be good if I got and stayed sick, that I would be good even if I gained 10 pounds-- Alanis Morissette |
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Dec 02, 2002 at 09:10 PM
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I think it is events like the one that you experienced that help us re-write our bad programming. You just re-wrote 60 minutes worth of bad tape. You go girl!!
Intimacy: "into me see." __________________ Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in one pretty and well preserved piece...but to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, worn out and defiantly shouting "Wow! What a ride!" |
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Dec 03, 2002 at 12:29 PM
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Majority rules. You are a good and decent person and your just gonna have to stop arguing and accept it
 Have a good day. Be proud of the woman you have become. Heidu __________________ There is a time in life when you stop existing and start living. There is a time in life when you are given a new chance and new dreams. There is a time in life when the old is to be forgotten and the new embraced. There is a time in life......And that time is now. Unknown |
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Dec 03, 2002 at 04:27 PM
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I'm still in the process of becoming that...
I'm "good" but a "woman"? Too often I feel like a scared little girl. Well I'll get there eventually I hope... Fuzzy __________________ 
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Poohbah
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Dec 03, 2002 at 04:33 PM
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First we say good things about you, then your co-workers....if this trend continues you may find yourself with no other choice than to believe that you are truly good person Zen my dearest. The jury is in...
Time to start seeing with better eyes. bp "A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart." |
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Poohbah
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Dec 03, 2002 at 09:50 PM
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What can I say I am a rather stubborn person when it comes to my self-worth. Ha ha. Thanks all. Yesterday I went into a total funk. I had the day off and I spent it eating icecream and reading a book. Both of which I feel are worthy uses of my time but surely I could have done something else, maybe even gotten dressed. I feel good now so the day off from life was a good thing.
Zen <font color=blue>that I would be good even if I did nothing, that I would be good even if I got the thumbs down, that I would be good if I got and stayed sick, that I would be good even if I gained 10 pounds-- Alanis Morissette |
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Dec 04, 2002 at 12:13 PM
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Even when life is perfect you have to have ice cream and book days. Glad you enjoyed it!
Heidu __________________ There is a time in life when you stop existing and start living. There is a time in life when you are given a new chance and new dreams. There is a time in life when the old is to be forgotten and the new embraced. There is a time in life......And that time is now. Unknown |
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