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Default Jan 18, 2019 at 03:34 AM
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So there is a guy who is 39 (10 years older than me), who enjoys what seems to be bullying me:

1) Coming back in the mini bus from a place, he goes to others "I try to look in the mirror trying to look like a Barbie doll". Back in 2015 October
2) Someone at sports practice goes to someone else "this new guy is our secret weapon" and this guy goes loudly "WHO...ME?" in sports practice 2016

3) He deliberately lied to someone to miss me out of getting a free drink at a party.
4) He goes at the stage in from of everyone at a function "where's me" in a malicious way on easter sunday 2018.
5) At my birthday, he decided for the first time ever say happy birthday on a whastapp group but he did this to show others I've got no friends on facebook as he knew if he didn't start off saying happy birthday on WhatsApp the others would say it on facebook.

6) It seems to me whenever I am around a video with me included is not taken when I'm sitting with my cousins, the other times when I'm not with my cousins its taken

222) There's another time where he and his cousin found out I could do well in life and dramatically said a few words which they went to the sports team WhatsApp group to make it appear they are doing good. So why did they do that then? Only when they found out I could do well.

7) I'm sure he negatively tries to influence people

8) He puts me down in a subtle when I even talk to him

9) Some more things which I've forgotten

And there's others who follow the crowd and enjoy taking a dig at me.

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Default Jan 18, 2019 at 03:40 AM
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You're 29 years old. This is high school drama. Ignore it or stand up for yourself.
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Default Jan 18, 2019 at 03:57 AM
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Do you need to be around this person?

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Default Feb 13, 2019 at 12:01 PM
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Not really.

B said "I can't give you a free drink because you don't pay fee's" but I said do pay fee's and the irony is my sister didn't pay the fee but gave her the free drink and she was on the list". So this guy (d) was being disrespectful to me because he's in charge of the fee's. Only he has the authority to do this guy d.

He's got bad character, k and h said to me and h heard it from someone "he pushed the captain". He even argues on the field.

There's proof of all of this.
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If you can, cut this person out of your life. If you can't, try to keep a distance from that person as much as possible. He sounds like he has some serious issues (very immature for someone who is almost 40).
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Default Feb 15, 2019 at 02:26 AM
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There are many people in the world to be friends with.... around 7 Billion in fact, we get to pick and choose.

I have a saying that I live by...'Those Who Matter Don't Mind, and Those Who Mind Don't Matter'...Find those who 'Don't Mind' Alpha03...and scrape off the rest.

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Default Feb 15, 2019 at 05:27 AM
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I'm so sorry, Alpha03 I agree with all the others. Cut off contacts with this person if you can. Try to avoid it as much as possible and ignore it if you do meet each other. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. Keep fighting. I'd say this guy is not worth your time. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
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Default Feb 15, 2019 at 08:03 AM
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Are you sure this isnt a scenario where you are misinterpreting other people's comments and body language?

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Default Feb 16, 2019 at 12:15 PM
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Hello Alpha03,

It does sound like a subtle form of bullying, definitely disrespecting, from this person. If you're perceiving put-downs then, yes, cut him out of your life, avoid, and/or tell him - and this is difficult as well - tell him you don't like the put-downs and to stop please. At least he'll know where you stand.

In terms of those others following the crowd taking digs at you, my previous advice applies there too. But if you've weighed up your situation and you still feel you want to be where all these people are, then you might have to try to 'take it on the chin' a little bit. I mean some people's way of trying to be funny can be a little brutal at times - so there's that as well.
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